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Reply With QuoteThat sounds suspicious. Your SO's response is not what someone committed and in love would say.
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Im trying to figure out does outside friends really have space in a relationship? Ok here is the story... My lover and I have been together over a year both have a facebook page.(where we met) My lover recently started to chat with a facebook friend outside of facebook. I'm not really sure what is going on. I stumbled across a few text between them and i saw words like boo and babe ( those are my names)...not to mention that my lover did pay this friend a visit while we were having an arguement at an unreasonalbe hour... I keep asking for this to stop but inresponse i get told, " I am grown an I will talk to who I want to talk to." /What do I do about this.. I am soo in love but this is really bothering me.
That sounds suspicious. Your SO's response is not what someone committed and in love would say.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
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oh....i wanna say everyone has their freedom,their circle of friends.Try to trust each other!!!
He's being disrespectful and gives you reasons to mistrust him. He doesn't seem as much in love with you as you are with him.
How old are the two of you?
You met on FB and presumably started talking outside of FB, then started a relationship?
He met this woman on FB and is talking with and seeing her outside of FB?
If he went to her when the two of you had an arguement, at an 'unreasonable' hour. that indicates a level of interaction and comfort that sounds like more that aquaintences. How many men do you know who would show up at your door at an 'unreasonable hour' when they had a disagreement with their lover?
Yes, he can talk to whomever he wishes. There isn't anything you can do about that. You can't make someone else do what you want or change what they do. HE has to make the changes and it sounds like he has been making changes. But they aren't changes that feel good to you for the relationship between the two of you.
The question is what are YOU going to do?
Having other gender friends shouldn't be a problem. Crossing lines is. I know quite a few men, we chat and joke a bit and may lend each other a hand but we respect our own and each other's relationships and don't cross the lines. You don't know what he has done. His attitude doesn't sound very reassuring or loving. From one brief post it is difficult to know what is going on and what is contributing to this.
Do the two of you argue often?
Does it degenerate into ugliness or do you keep it civil?
How does he treat you in general?
Is he affectionate?
How is your sexual relationship? Is he an attentive lover, who cares that you are pleasured?
What kind of things do you do together?
Do you live together?
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
thanks for responding! to answer a few of your questions we are 24 and 23. Yes we live together. Before we started dating we work in the same place. My SO is a Dj and I am club manager... GO figure! I feel some type of way because before we started dating I was in a relationship until we started talking on Fb. I was wooed from the beginning! We have been together 15 months and only argued maybe twice really big. we get along so well together. This is one of the only real problems that we have had... On the other hand i'm happy to announce that we talked and i have seen some changes!!! I hope it continues!
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