Thread: Needing some Help Please

Hi everyone, Im new and ran across site while searching for articles relating to my problem.
We are about to get married in a few months and for some reason, i almost always refuse sex. If im in the mood, lately, like once a month, thats the only time we have it. I feel terrible and its causing problems in our otherwise, perfect relationship. we talked briefly about the issue and all i can say is something must be wrong with me. We are both VERY busy with work, the wedding, and life in general. So a lot of the time, im tired and worn out, but hes ready to go. I love him TO DEATH and hes such a wonderful man. I am attracted to him, i enjoy sex when we do have it, but actually wanting it is the problem. My guess is lately, since we are busy, we spend little time together other then going to bed. We come home, go to gym, back home, make dinner, then get on our computers (games, work, wedding, etc etc) and then bed. I would like to get him to understand whats going on with me and he just doesnt "get it". Ive tried saying we have been emotionally unconnected lately due to how busy we have been. (least thats how i feel sometimes). He always says im beautiful, hugs and kisses all the time. So im wondering if its just stress. Stress of the wedding, stress of work, stress of not being intimate, stress of what if it doesnt go away, stress of him not being happy. God, i need a vacation lol. I just need someone to tell me if this is what it is for right now. I cant even say if it started before the engagment, but i can say its gotten worse. We never fight but we are starting to get snippy like when he reminds me our marriage wont work if it continues. this hurts me and ive cried about it, but i say nothing because there is nothing else i can say other then repeating myself over and over, he just doesnt understand what im saying...and thats not normal, usually, he knows before i finish the thought of what im trying to say. Needless to say, this is becoming more and more frusterating, i dont want to have a divorce lawyer on speed dial BEFORE i even get married, but its making us CRAZY.

Please any advice would help. But Im BEGGING you, please dont say dont get married, weve waited so long to find each other in this world and now that we have, and are amazing together, to hear that would literally kill me. It was never a problem, and it PICKED A BAD TIME to become one.