No Sex spark?

**Mayra123** · 01-14-2011 03:06 PM

Is it normal to like someone & think they're attractive but not be sexually driven by them?
I'm thinking about getting back with my ex because i think it could really work out this time
but as cute as he is, I don't find the need to have sex with him. Is that wierd? & why do i feel like that?

**stressed** · 01-14-2011 03:21 PM

Have you always felt like that towards him? Is it only him you've felt like this towards or have you felt the same about other men?

Maybe you see him as a best friend you can have a great life with, but not as your lover. This will be a problem if he does want sex with you and it's something he must be aware of from the start.

Don't get involved with him before you let him know how you feel about him sexually.

**rcoreyus** · 01-21-2011 10:09 AM

There are people I like, people I think are attractive, and people that I find sexually attractive. Some people are all of these, but others only one or two.

**WildChild** · 01-21-2011 11:35 AM

If you are not sexually attracted then just be freinds.
You can be great freinds without tying him to you and keeping him from having a fully satisfying relationship with someone else. Unless he has no interest in sex and is happy to just have a chum rather than a woman in his life, all you should be is a freind.

**oxy-moron** · 01-25-2011 04:57 PM

Its like when you are young- you can eat anything and be fit and look good.
But as time goes on you have to make an effort to keep in shape or you can blob on the couch.
A young relationship gives you easy good times emotionally and sexually. You overlook their faults and bad habits. They overlook yours.

As the relationship gets older you have to put in more effort- no effort and the relationship deteriorates.
Eventually you are not bothered to do anything with them. You are on the couch in your baggy sweatpants going nowhere.

You could get the easy sex and relationship rush with someone else but then turn around in two years after the easytimes are over and find you have less in common than you had with your ex.