Thread: Trying to be supportive despite sheer lack of support........

Sometimes being supportive means allowing someone to make their own mistakes in the hopes that they will learn from them, and offering an ear and a shoulder when things do go wrong.

Then it was all worth while..You need to get that into your head for future, because otherwise, it's going to eat at you for ever....each time something like this happens....

Oh yes...I've thought about this very thing so many times...mostly in reference to the thought that I may at some point have children. And oh gracious....I can only imagine the level of protectiveness I'll feel, and the burden I'll bear trying to keep their hearts happy.

I tell her, how can you be so focused and ambitious for a successful future career wise, and so unwilling to have to let go of the past in your personal life? It's in her head, that this pain she feels, the pain she felt when this girl broke up with her, is love. And it is sad, that she, at such a young age, has spent her last 3 years alone simply because she believes that. She lives in the heart of LA....she has ample opportunity to meet people. She goes out with friends, spends a lot of time in coffee shops and bookstores, and she meets people....but never gives anyone even a second glance. It's sad enough to do that for anyone, but especially for someone as down right rotten as this ex of hers is.

Sometimes being supportive means allowing someone to make their own mistakes in the hopes that they will learn from them, and offering an ear and a shoulder when things do go wrong.

And that's exactly what I'll do....because its the only thing I can do really. Obviously I value our friendship more than to say "screw it' and throw in the towel out of disappointment. I'll certainly be there for her, without any doubt. But its very very hard.

BD. You are a True Sister of The Heart and that is Rare.

But to be True in all Ways. You must be Truthful. Tell her how much you Love her ( I'm sure she knows already ) That you will be there Always, but also explain that seeing her put herself in the Position to be hurt again, worries you and that when and if you talk, email, see each other, that you really would not discuss The " Bytch" , well use her name lol .

As you do not want to cause strife between you two Sisters and do not want to hurt her by speaking your mind, As your Mama told you if you can't say nothing nice, don't say anything at all .. Lol

I am hoping you still get your Vacation with her this Spring. if this Ex moves back in, I'm sure that won't happen unless you Go to LA. and then that doesn't seem like much of a Vacation for you.
Hoping for the Best for You and your Sis.