In a world of darkness, I found a light!

**SomiticPit** · 01-25-2011 11:48 PM

I noticed that 99% of the threads posted in the relationships and dating forums usually are centered around difficult questions, doubts, fears, concerns, problems and issues, uncertaintys and what not...all the trials and downsides and confusing parts of relationships. I am not trying to say there is anything wrong with it at all, because the Womens-Health forum is one of the first places I run to with my questions and concerns about all things male and all things love and all things involving the difficult aspects of relationships. But I just wanted to post a thread focusing on something that deserves the spotlight for once...

I am with an amazing man who I love and see as my best friend, and for once in my life, I feel like I am very blessed. I have never been in a relationship that has been as healthy as this one. We have our ups and downs and disagreements at times (not often), but I feel so lucky that we both know how to handle each other, taking one anothers thoughts and feelings into consideration. He is totally the best and I want our relationship to last for years to come. We have gone through hard times, but what makes it so wonderful is that those hard times we went through, we went throught them hand in hand, and without him, I don't think I could've done it. He makes me so happy, and I want to return the favor and make him happy too.

Looking at my past relationships, they were never so HONEST. They were never so WHOLE. They were never so EASY. It's like, I used to feel like I was at arms length from every boyfriend. Either I was holding my arms out to keep my distance, or he was. But with the man I'm with now, there is no space in between. It's me and him together, it's me and him against the world

He is my best friend, he makes me laugh, and brings a smile to my face everyday. He treats me like a princess and puts up with me when I'm not at my best, because he knows me at my best.

I want this man to be THE love of my life. The top of the list, my one and only, my best friend. I want one day for us to live together, and share our lives together. I am so happy. I am so blessed.

**jns** · 01-26-2011 08:05 PM

Lucky girl, I wish you the best. May it never end.

**asiangrace** · 01-26-2011 08:53 PM

SomiticPit, I smiled as I read your post. I am so glad you have found the man for you. It is so good that you realize how blessed you are. I am sure he feels the same way about you! I love hearing girls "brag" about their guys. How did you two meet, if you don't mind me asking?

I feel the same way you do about my man. We met a little over two years ago and have been inseperable since then. He is my best friend. We have had disagreements too, but always find a way to work through them and never stay angry at each other. I agree, my other relationships have not been honest and I felt like I could not trust the men in my other relationships. With Ryan, it is so much different; a breathe of fresh air. He has seen me at my worst and loves me all the same. Even though it has been over two years, he still gives me butterflies in my stomach and I still get excited when he calls or text messages me!! He has made me feel sexy and beautiful and like the only girl in the world.

I am so glad that you have found such a great man in your life. I wish you all the best!

**BabyGirl** · 01-27-2011 12:43 PM

with a sure wish I could find that special feeling that you have ..
* again *

**Little_Miss_Me** · 01-27-2011 08:06 PM

This just made my heart flutter. Thank you =)

He treats me like a princess and puts up with me when I'm not at my best, because he knows me at my best.

Ah!!! That is one of the sweetest things I've ever heard. Good for you! I'm so jealous!

**Colorado** · 01-27-2011 10:49 PM

Always nice hearing the success stories! Congrats!

**SomiticPit** · 01-29-2011 03:24 PM

Thank you so much ladies for the congrats and smiles and butterflies

asiangrace
We met at work! I was working the afternoon shift, he was working the graveyard, so we saw each other in passing. I just thought he was handsome, and I guess he had his eye on me too

I was the one who asked him for his number and approached him one night when he went out for a break. He tries to say he always tried talking to me first, but I don't remember that. I did all the hard work, I think he was too shy

It has been almost five months that we have been together, and it doesn't seem like it's been that long! I guess time flies when your having an amazing time

And while we are on this subject, I have a question for everyone...how do you go about the whole "moving in together" process. I don't know when is too early to move in with your man. I was going to wait until six or seven months but for what reason, I don't know. Do you just come straight out and ask or at some point do some people's lives just "merge" together like that, if you know what I mean...I have never lived with a boyfriend before and this is the one man I feel serious about this with.

**Little_Miss_Me** · 01-29-2011 09:51 PM

The moving in process happened fairly smooth for me and my ex. Started not too long after we started sleeping together, I fell asleep one night, and just the feeling of waking up to one another was amazing. The next night, when I was going to leave, he refused to let me leave for the night. And well, next thing you know, I was spending most of my time there. Then, most of my clothes ended up over there. And well, then came the laundry. Then the whole start your day off right with some morning sex, lol...

I'd say the process started about five months in, then took about another two to be fully moved in, helping pay bills/redecorate, ect.

There was no talk, everything just moved together and felt so... right.

**SomiticPit** · 01-30-2011 12:35 PM

See thats what I think is going to happen with us. He gets out in six weeks and he says he's going to be staying with his mom but I highly doubt it, I think he'll probably end up staying with me. There would be no point for him to stay with his mom really. How is living with a boyfriend? Is it easy? Does it do more or less for the relationship?

**WildChild** · 01-30-2011 01:59 PM

Is this one of the prisoners? He's "getting out" in 6 weeks?
If it is, Darling DO NOT let him move in with you. Let him get his feet on the ground, find steady employment, and show you and himself that he can live responsibly and take responsibility. That doesn't mean living with mom. It means getting so he is fully self supporting, paying his own rent, paying his own bills, handling his life successfully. He needs this to become fully functional as a productive adult. He needs a support system, yes, but if you and mom are just propping him up, he may collapse the moment one or both of you aren't there to steer. Give him a chance to know, for himself, that he can stand alone. You loving him may give him an extra boost to succeed but he needs to do this.

If he isn't a prisoner, it's still very early days for moving in. You are definitely in the infatuation stages and that means that you literally don't 'see' many weak points. Give it more time to develop.