Is there that perfect balance of a person out there?

**sarahlee20** · 02-17-2011 04:07 AM

I just was sitting here thinking if there was that perfect person that could fit close to all my needs.....I mean obviously no is perfect but is it so hard to find that ONE person to spend the rest of your life with? I hope so, Cause I am tired being let down. Is it hard to find someone like this....Here is my list....

1. Romantic..yet not a push over or too clingy
2. Loving always there to listen and not judge and like me for me.
3 honest----self explanatory
4. giving--- patient with me and others and just enjoys spending time with me.
5 sweet------self explanatory
6 fun--------- likes to have fun yet knows when to be serious and includes me, can make me laugh.
7 kind----self explanatory
8 faithful----self explanatory
9 has a decent job
10 a decent car
11 funny
12 smart
13patient
14wants kids at some point.
15 easy to compromise with. ( that's a biggie)
15 sexually be able to please me as much as i would please them...That is the end of the list...

**rcoreyus** · 02-17-2011 08:38 AM

1. "not a push over" - tricky - romantic love means they love you unconditionally, but you don't want them to do this too easily?

9 and 10 go together.

Otherwise, yes I think you can find someone who meets the rest of your list. You need to be reasonable of course - if by "decent" car you mean a Ferrari, and "smart" you want a Nobel prize, then its a bit tougher <g>.

Seriously though, I think you can find someone who is everything on that list as long as you are reasonable about each item.

Do you fit everything on the list?

**sarahlee20** · 02-17-2011 09:05 PM

True....1 is tricky and what i mean by that is someone who would love me unconditionally but not be too clingy as in on me all the time...however someone who is romantic inside as well as outside the bedroom.
Yes 9 and 10 do go together.
I feel i fit generally most of what's on the list and I just am looking forward to finding "that" with my other half. I guess the search will go on till i think I've found the one.

Just wondered what everyone thought.

**nubianqueen** · 02-18-2011 07:42 PM

I'm in the same boat as you.......I want a man with similar qualities. So far, the guys I've come across excel in some areas, but seriously lack in others. I feel like I am a nice balance between all of those qualities, and I think it's fair enough to want the same in your S.O., especially if you are reasonable in your expectations.

**rcoreyus** · 02-18-2011 10:55 PM

What qualities seem to be the hardest to find?

Also - do you have all those qualities?

**sarahlee20** · 02-19-2011 11:42 PM

Originally Posted by rcoreyus

What qualities seem to be the hardest to find?

Also - do you have all those qualities?

I believe i have those qualities I mean I know I am not a perfect person not even close to it. The hardest quality I've noticed lately I've been having problems finding # 15 on the list. With guys in the past some i've had you know some guys have half the list others have only some ramdom numbers on the list. I want all the numbers to line up sort of like a jackpot I want to win the jackpot and get all the numbers. I want to get the jackpot of LOVE.

**sarahlee20** · 02-19-2011 11:49 PM

In fact I would just be happy finding the friend jackpot....

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-20-2011 12:38 AM

Corey brings a good point to all.

Do you match, what you are asking for? In every aspect, because if you don't, then your asking for more than you are able to give.

Read your list again, and see if you can tick every single one or not.

CW

**WaitingPatiently** · 02-20-2011 12:45 AM

I am in the same boat as you are with having qualities that I look for in someone who will compliment me well. For me, I am a very strong willed and independent woman, who knows what she wants and is very opinionated....which can be a good thing sometimes but usually ends up not being the best thing for me. I have prayed for the man I will marry since I was 18 years old, and I believe God will answer those prayers when His perfect time allows. But don't think even for a minute that I don't get impatient, that I have not become angry or bitter as to why ALL of my friends and every one that I encounter is married but me....because I have. I have tried begging and bargaining with God for that PERFECT someone....not perfect in the literal sense but the one perfect for ME and me for him. Continue to hang in there friend! There are good guys out there who will compliment us PERFECTLY....we may just not have met them yet!