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Work for what?
To get rid of him?
To pique his interest?
All men read please!
does ignoring your ex boyfriend really work? or is it just a myth? i'm looking for a mans point of view, but women are welcome. i'd love to hear what you guys think too!
Work for what?
To get rid of him?
To pique his interest?
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
to make him want you back..
You can't make someone want you back. If you want to ignore him, then do so, but don't do it under the pretenses that it's going to trigger something in his brain to all the sudden come knocking on your door wanting you back in his arms.
Move on and get on with your life. If he wants you back, that's his decision, just like it will also be your decision whether or not to take him back. There was obviously a reason for the break up. Don't play games, it's not very becoming of a person.
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
If a person has fallen out of love, there is nothing you can do, to win them back.....
More importantly, ignorance to achieve recognition is playing a game, conning someone, not a good foundation for a good relationship.
Your asking if it will eat at him, to the extent of him trying to communicate with you which in turn will make you smile, happy and think that he want's you back, however, if that's his personality? He has to win? Sure, he may bite, however, he'll either sleep with you again and walk, or he'll see that he's won and achieved and walk...
You only ignore someone to rid them of your past so that you can heal and get on with your present and future.
Never play games...You'll get more hurt.
And for all member's, please do not post headings that request men only even if you include us ladies in your textIt's an open forum for all to answer and will no doubt make some women feel they shouldn't answer which is not what this Forum is about.
CW
Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 02-25-2011 at 02:04 PM.
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
A man's perspective....
The ONLY reason someone, either one, should be ignored is in an effort to get on with your life.
The relationship ended for a reason, grow from it, learn from it and move on.
What are the circumstances of your break up. Playing hard to get might be OK if he is trying to re-establish something with you. Not so good if he is trying to get away from you.
We broke up in October, he said that he has a lot going on & that he just wants to be friends & that we can be back together probably when we go to FL together in December with his family. But the trip never happened. Its on a later date. So we’ve been friends ever since than but its really hard for me & I told him how I felt & he said that I’m selfish because its hard for me to be friends with him after the break up. Though out the on & off dating we have never been friends after normally he just disappears for months than comes back. I’ve had no time to heal & a part of me is scared of letting him go because I feel I may regret it in my later years of living & will be dealing with the concequeses for the rest of my life. But than again a part of me thinks healing is best for me & letting him go would be better for me. Recently him & his family went to visit his sister at her college & really wanted me to go but I couldn’t because I had to work. He seemed really bummed out but eventually he got over it. I also am concerned me may be using me for money too. what ive been noticing is that he’ll ask me if I want to come over & hang out, I’ll agree than he’ll ask me for money & if I don’t have it eventually all plans fail. Like example yesterday after ignoring him for 4 days, he texted me & I had an urge to text him back so I did & he asked me if I wanted to come over after work & hang out. I agreed & he asked me for money, but I didn’t have it. & he said nevermind but I wasn’t sure what he was reffering to so I asked him nevermind to what & he said “nothing your action slow man” so I didn’t respond for awhile (like 10-20 minutes) and than I texted back & asked him if he wanted me to come over still after work. No response. Than I texted him again, & an hour later he responds to the other text but not to the text asking if he still wanted me to come over. So I texted him again & no response. So I ended up going home after work.
What would be the best move to handle a situation like this?
Am I just over reacting?
It doesn't sound good from what I read- you will be better off by playing hard to get but I suspect he is very immature and self centred and you will be best served by moving on and ignoring his texts altogether. Start flirting with other guys.
You need to just let it go and move on. He only wants to hang with you when it is convenient for you. Only YOU can put a stop to it, as long as you are always in his "fall back" plans he'll always stay in contact with you for when all else fails.
Walk away and move on. You've had a relationship with him, the relationship is no more. Heal yourself from this relationship and put him in your past.
You're being played and I think you know it.
Just start declining his invites and just tell him that you have other plans or be a bit more forward and tell him that you don't feel you can be friends with him anymore because it is not allowing you to move on from the relationship. Either way, like I said, put him in the past and move on with your future.
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
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