Thread: Am I just holding on or is it still possible?

Hi,
I'm new to this forum but I really need advice. My boyfriend have been together since 2007 July. It's going to be 4 years soon. We have had a very interesting journey. 6 months into our relationship, I got pregnant and miscarried. We were deceived by one of our doctors who lied to us and cheated on us, and then basically disappeared. It impacted both of us a lot, but we had a wonderful relationship following it. We were both in college and doing good, we would meet on weekends. My boyfriend would drive out every friday 5 hours to see me for 36 hours and drive back every sunday. He would shower me with love and we were doing great.

Then we decided to transfer schools to be closer to each other. We did this 2 years into our relationship. We basically switched schools and started living in the same apartment complex, but different apartments. We still hung out a lot. Then 6 months later, my boyfriend just started living in my apartment. He semi-moved in. He would spend some nights there. We were still doing very good, but just minor fights.

Then last summer is when things changed a lot, and for the worst. We spent the summer working together on campus but different jobs. He was living with his parents and I was living with my uncle. We hung out a little on weekends but mostly during the week. His mom basically started creating fights between us. She would blame me for lying and cause tension between us. I tried my hardest to do things for his mom but she would just always blame me for doing them wrong.

When that summer ended, I got my own apartment and my boyfriend got his own, but he started living with me all the time. He had become very distant after that summer. He started rethinking about what had happened in the past. He had no interests. He did not like to hold my hand anymore, or kiss me, or hug me. he didn't wanna cuddle. He took the ring he gave me back (a promise ring) and we had a temporary break up for 2 days.

We made up and he started staying with me again. Now things are just bad. We fight over every little thing because he has an opinion about everything that is exactly opposite of mine. He gets upset over things like if I don't send his mail, or do the dishes even though he was supposed to do them. We have stopped having sex, and when we do it lasts about a minute and he gets up and leaves, and gets more upset with himself. Now it's been 6 weeks no sex (before it was 6 times a week until about a year ago).

He talks weird now about how stressed he is and how he wish he could just run away from everything. I think he is depressed, but he doesn't wanna be helped. I'm trying to help him but I don't know what to do? I love him so much and I know he does also. And I want to make this work. We both have high schools of going to med/law school, but I feel like I am losing him. He gets upset when I hug him or want to kiss him or hold his hand. Recently we've stopped going anywhere on weekends also. What do I do?!

To top it off, his brother is creating more problems between us by pulling him away from me. His brother told him "what's hte need to get her a v-day present. or what's the need to buy her a birthday present" and when i gave my bf a gift he said "return it, i already thought of getting you that just haven't gotten it" he calls him firday night, saturday night sunday night and we can NEVER go out! I just don't know what to do. is it over?! or can i make it work? I want to make it work, please help me in how i can do that.

Sorry it was too long but I have been holding it in for a long time now...Thank you.