Thread: help

Wow confusing- what would posses you to contact an Ex or his partner. Keep away from drama - it may seem attractive but will damage your relationships.

my friend wanted to tell off my ex for doing some bad things to me but the thing to know is i never started any of this it just all came to me. I just feel rotten cus I don't know what's going to happen next.

I am guessing that you are young ?

Part of Growing up and Maturing is realizing what to say, when to say it, whether or not to say it ( or actions or reacting to things ).
We all make and made mistakes, the key is to Learn from them so that they do not happen again or have negative repercussions.

What happened in the past with your Ex, should from now on Stay in the Past. It's not your Friends job to Tell off your Ex , Though it is Admirable that they care enough about you to defend you or try to fight your " Battles " for you.

Though you did Not " Start" this in the true sense, you did in a way by telling stuff in the First place. Learn to Let go, and that means Really let go. The past is gone and only your Future should concern you.

Explain to your friend that you appreciate the wanting to help by defending you or by Stepping up for you. But you wish them to just let it go and to please not act in or on your behalf anymore.

As for your Ex and his new G/F or any of his Friends or Family. Just let this ride, have No Contact with any of them. If they are Mutual friends, explain that you are willing to remain friends on the Condition that the Ex is not mentioned.

This can be done in a Mature and Respectful and Loving way, By Just smiling and saying " I choose not to live in the Negative of the Past and wish to live for a Happy and Tranquil Future. I do hope he finds happiness in his life and I am no longer part of it, neither the Good or the Bad "

Say that with meaning !!
Mean it and repeat it as many times as it takes to make it the Truth to you and others.
Then live One Day at a Time and make those the Days you are in Now.