CONFUSED!!!Does he trully love me

**pinkangel** · 03-11-2011 02:03 AM

Iv been with my boyfriend for over a year now, things have always been great but a couple of months ago things started changing. He has this ''i dont care'' attitude, when im unhappy about something he doesnt want to be confronted.

We moved in together 3 months into the relationship, we were planning on getting married later this year and starting a family. Now im confused.

He blames me for everything that goes wrong, he never takes accountability for the wrong he does. Its always my fault. I just dont know what to think any more.

He calls me names, says im manipulative, a lier and i always start fights. How am i gonna have a relationship with a man who doesnt care. I reali love him and i dont wanna lose him.

I dont know what to do anymore,iv done everything a could bt doesnt see me trying

Then this morning he tells me he loves me, how can i believe that.

Does he reali love me?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-11-2011 03:17 AM

Living together brings out the compatibility of two people ,it also brings out the nature of the beast, as he/she feels that he/she has been "nice" to get past the dating stage.

Usually these "types" in my opinon ( I married one) will wait until marriage before belittling, calling you names, bring you down and make you insecure so you feel no one will ever love you, he loves you, he puts up with you, you are a lier, etc, you must be he says so although you don't believe him.

One day you will see, he was manipulating you, to become whom he wants....

You don't really love him, rather the person you originally met..

You shouldn't be trying, he should be apologising for trying to control you and belittle you...

You need to shake yourself up and realise your worth...

Telling you he loves you is to keep you there.

Write it all down, and you will see that there are not many good things he does, or the way he treats you, are you really going to live like that on eggshells?

Why?

CW

**stressed** · 03-11-2011 06:35 AM

He tells you he loves you but shows otherwise. Moving in together only 3 months into the relationship is supposed to feel ideal for both of you, not the opposite.

You don't seem to be compatible and this causes frequent arguments. Reconsider staying with him.

**Seeker_Advice** · 03-11-2011 07:21 AM

EEEEERRRRRRRRRR!!! That's the sound of YOU slamming on the brakes of going ANY FURTHER with this guy until he recognizes the error in his ways.

"How am i gonna have a relationship with a man who doesnt care." You AREN'T...if you're smart!

If I were you, I'd be reevaluating everything at this point.

**pinkangel** · 03-12-2011 12:01 PM

It does really feel like im walking on eggshells, shoooo!
Thanx so much for your advice. Its really had for me to leave but i feel i have to, for my sake. My whole family loves him, everyone will think its my fault coz he looks so sweet.
Il keep you posted on what goes on

**WildChild** · 03-12-2011 12:55 PM

Actions speak louder than words.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-12-2011 01:33 PM

Funny, everyone in my family for years also thought the same....Until, they saw my face at each get together, they realised something was up, when I told them what was occuring and that I am stronger than that, that he always put up a front of "sweet, nice", to everyone, they actually saw through it, and were 100% behind me....

Family is blood they will stand together, all you have to do is tell them what you told us...

CW