Is it a good thing to love a girl instead of a boy ?!

**koketo** · 03-13-2011 07:56 AM

heyy,uhmmmmm well let me start cuz i really need help !!
i'm gonna talk about something i know it's weird and it's weird to me ;S
u know there is lesbian and straight poeple RIGHT ...
and i have alot of friends but some of them are lesbians :S
at the school they have girl-friends,sex,going out of the class just to see there lovers :s
it's kind of weird !

when school start the first day i was walking "searching" for my 2 best friends...
and it's was like too hard to me to find them because there is to many students and i'm new in school,,after that i saw them and we just hang out,my best friend told me:

heyy lina there is too many tomboys in the school why u don't try to love some1 like them ?!?!?!
i was like WHat no i can't i didn't even love anyone before like a "GIRL"
she said: THEN JUST TRY !!
i said : okii i will think of it BUT IT'S WEIRD !

i was really confused !!
after this day..
i was walking alone to the biology class,,i saw a tomboy was talking about me to her friend...

hhhh i really gets shy i don't know why because she was looking at me like that >>>

and i get shy from people who just keep looking at me

and then when the bill rings i took my books and put them in my bad..after that one if my best friend came to me running and she was like "lina !!!! come here i want to talk to u about something importent ,,some one likes u and want u as a girl friend !!! "
i was so confused :s i said no i don't want....and then after that they told the tomboy lina said it's better to be friends and she said okii.
after that i start talking to her,,she calls,,she ask about me alot,,and when i need somebody i only see her beside me :s like more than my BFF'Z :s :S :S

and then i start loving her too much !!!

IS IT A GOOD THING TO LOVE A GIRL INSTEAD OF A BOY ?!!?!?

please help me

**stressed** · 03-13-2011 10:22 AM

The difference in having a "friend" and a "girlfriend", being "straight" and "lesbian" is sexual attraction. You can care about your friend, you can enjoy spending time with a friend of the same sex, but when it comes to becoming sexual with someone it cannot be forced, whether you like the attention or not.

You cannot really "love" a friend, there are limits. You don't give it all for a friend like you would for someone you're in love with.

You must be very young, maybe going to a school where there are no boys around, you and your friends go through hormonal changes, so it's expectable for you girls to be curious about what's going on. However, don't let your friends affect your judgement and don't let tomboys/anyone influence your sexual choices. Just because there are so many girls around does not make it necessary for you to develop a relationship with one of them. Don't do anything because "it's cool" or because "that's what most girls at school do". Do what you feel.

Because by what you've written it sounds like your friend has encouraged this "closeness" between you and the tomboy, when you had no such intentions yourself. So, be careful with how easily you offer yourself and your company to others. Don't do anything you don't want to do and focus on your studies. You have so many years ahead of you to spend on relationships.

**WildChild** · 03-13-2011 10:31 AM

Lesbian women or gay man generally know from a young age (although they may fight to hide it even from themselves) that they are sexually attracted to their own gender. This is something within them that cannot be fully denied, they simply have no sexual attraction to the other gender. Bi-sexuals are attracted to both. Straight people are not sexually attracted to their own gender.

I would guess that you are fairly young and at an age when curiosity is strong and so is peer pressure. I encourage you to tell your friends that you just aren't ready yet to consider a "relationship" and would rather just have female and male freinds for now. If they cannot respect that, then they aren't very good freinds. In time you will have a more clear feeling about what YOU want rather than what they are pushing you into.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 03-14-2011 08:34 AM

You should only go out with, date or be with someone YOU are interested in, someone you find wonderful, intelligent, funny, beautiful, attractive. It does not matter what your friends prefer. You can have many friends that like to date guys. You can have many friends that like to date girls. You can have friends that like to date both.