Thread: Is this, possible?

To find someone that could say yes, to even, half of these?:

Would you make music and art with me?
Would you be able to understand that I can't live outside of, monogamy?
Would you embrace me, and never negatively compare me to a past love, nor desire?
Would you allow me to embrace you, and would you tell me how wonderful it is, when I do?
Would you be able to make me feel first in your life, and let me make you first in mine?
Would you welcome my beauty, and not try to maul it?
Would you see that when I feel beautiful, I wish to share it, and help you feel it, too?
Would you tell me all about your dreams, would some involve me?
Would you listen to all of mine, and be okay with being in many?
Would you understand when I don't want to share myself with any other, would you be able to feel the same?
Would you be able to wake up next to me and smile, would you be able to think, "We're both extremely... lucky".
Would you know to hold me, when I'm feisty and cut-throat --- that it would calm me, and that I would give you an apology?
Would you see that, there is meaning in, creating things?
Would you see that, there is meaning in, strolling amongst nature; my skin against yours, and conversing about everything and anything: from cells, health, poverty, theories and beliefs to colors and crazy possibilities?
Would you be able to dance and play in the mud with me?
And slide inside of me, make love to me, amongst the insects and the trees?
Would you be turned on if I debated something dear to you and caused you to question it, and would you let me put you inside of my mouth when you challenged me?
Would you realize I find your mind and body completely breathtaking?
Would you never judge me in ways that would make me feel rejected, unaccepted, and not good enough for you?
Would you understand the wonder, in the pure sensation of familiar touch and a familiar voice, a familiar scent and a familiar heartbeat?
Would you be able to find value in experiencing and growing with one other, in sharing your fears and your passions --- your secrets and fantasies --- your pain and your happiness?
Would you know that we would have to die together?
That life without one another, would just be surviving?
That no one is worth risking us over, and that anyone tempting would just be strange biology --- not hard to disregard --- that biology could never come close to dividing the bond we've garnered?

And maybe our moans would bleed into the melodies you make,
And into the canvas, I could with you, perhaps, still appreciate.
And our words would coalesce; perhaps I'd even be able to call them,

poetry…

We'd cook over the raging sun together, and stay up all night around the flames, eating and laughing and sharing our beings, intimately and nuttily --- and when the sun was tired of our railing around it, we would run off and collect waterfalls to paint and sing with.

Maybe we would feed the homeless with the best of our experiments,
And neither one of us, would ever feel threatened by,
The kind of love we have, for life and for others.

Because we'd both know, nothing else,
Could ever create,
The love and beauty, that epitome of connection,
Between, you and me.

What is an intimate relationship, even supposed to be like?

While i think its possible... and many of them reasonable... I think you have to keep sure to toe the line between love and obsession as there is a distinction between the two and one is the most beautiful thing in the world... and the other can tear that beautiful thing apart.

Love is such a beautiful gift... but it is exactly that... a gift. Part of its beauty is that one gives it of free will, that its something they organically feel.

Finding someone that views and values monogomy as you do, someone that can respect your feelings and sensitivity, someone that knows making you feel special is essential to your happiness is something that is reasonable to want in a mate... and something that is realistic to find in one as well.

Since people are not robots, you will have to take the good with the bad, as will they when they accept you into their life. Concessions have to be made in every relationship... as long as each partner is getting their key needs met from each other, there will be happiness... whether those needs are emotional, physical , etc... doesn't matter.

I think if you place too much importance on them reciprocating every emotion you feel with the exact same emotion... would be setting yourself up for dissapointment , in my opinion. What matters most is that they reciprocate respect for all of the emotions you have whether or not they share each and every one of them....and in the same vein you'd have to respect that they don't have their brains wired the same way as yours and will feel differently about various things.

To love someone is amazing, beautiful... but do not feel for one moment... that your love and way of loving is the only acceptable version of the emotion... or you may miss out on other forms of love that are equally as beautiful and amazing.