Thread: How to know if you're over someone?

I have been divorced 4 years. I have no physical attraction towards my ex and actually never really did. He left me with nothing, hardly ever sees kids and owes grands in child support. He purposely has a low paying job til kids are 18- and I'm not kidding!

when I found out he has a gfriend 3 years ago it was awful! I could hardly eat, had thoughts of secretly having sex with him behind her back, felt just miserable, acted out with guys sexually, partied harder, etc.

Now, I could care less about men, though I do occassionally have a one nighter (about once a year)- I have no desire to call him, or listen to his voice or anything. I still feel a little mad about his girlfriend- they live together now- and I'm mad because Im pretty sure he knew her when we were married, and I get mad how I have no child support and what a dead beat he is, and how he left me bankrupt, foreclosed house, etc.!

How to know if you're over someone?

When you can forgive that person. Forgiveness is not for them, it's for you, so you can go on with your life and NOT ALLOW yourself to be in a position like you currently find yourself.

Get over your past. Stop trying to figure out when he knew her and when he didn't. Who cares? It's not going to help you or change a thing. So let it go... The ONLY thing anger, frustration and resentment do is eat away at the person who is feeling that way and NEGATIVELY IMPACT the children you are raising. They don't impact your ex one bit...so get over it...today!

Focus on what you do have...beautiful children, your health, the rest of your life, endless possibilities!

Life sucks! Nobody said it was going to be like 'summer camp'. So pick yourself up, brush yourself off, give your children a hug, a kiss and tell each one of them that you love them and get back into life.

When you have your 'one nighter' about once a year, I hope you are protecting your children's mother from biological harm too.