Thread: He said he doesn't love me anymore

You asked/told/encouraged/or forced him to decide between his children and you. IMO - he did the right thing, as any parent should - choose their children. I've never met a mother who would ever put any man before her children. Why is it okay for you to assume that he would?

If the roles were reversed, would you leave your child with their father in order to move 1700 miles away to be with a man? I don't think so...

As far as the relationship with his ex, the custody of the children (I assume thay have joint legal custody) and the threat of being taken back to court for more support....all of it sounds like a bunch of bunk! Though laws vary greatly between states, most of these threats wouldn't hold water in a court room. If she's not working how can she hire an attorney? I'd call that bluff so fast it would make her head spin. I'd file for full custody myself if I were him.

Sooner or later, he's going to have to get the guts to challenge her threats in court and get the court to get her to stop making them. As long as he responds to them as he does currently...she WINS and the children lose.

Depending on the state, once children reach a certain age, frequently 14, they have the right to speak and be heard in open court and the court will take into consideration what they have said. So IF they want to live with dad, wherever he is, your man may have an advantage already.

I am not a lawyer, so I suggest he consult with one. Tell him to get a mean one too. "Family" court is where battles take place between opposing parties. It's not all gum balls and lolipops like the court system wants you to think it is....and has NOTHING to do with "Family".

No, I would never ask him or tell him to choose me or the kids. The kids wanted to come down here to live with us. We have tried to fight the court battle once before, and to do it all again would take five years or more, so there is no point in that. The bottom line is he needs to stay to see to it that his kids are taken care of, since she really does nothing (in my opinion) to care for them, physically or emotionally. They truely need their Dad. At this point I dont expect him to move down here, what I am confused about is why does the relationship have to end? Why does he choose not to talk to me? Just because he has responsibility to his kids means the relationship has to end? All he ever says is it has to be this way and things have changed, he doesnt love me anymore. I am not so sure I beleive that, and so I am stuck with do I keep trying to communicate with him, or just give up. Trying to get myself to stop loving him when I dont want to is not working either. I dont know what to do, and all I do is cry non stop because this is just so devastating!