Thread: Old Boyfriend trying to ruin my new relationship

Hello everyone, m a gal. 20 yrs. I m worried n depressed. There is something eating me up. Read my thread n tell me how can I help myself.

I was engaged 2 a guy 2 yrs ago. He works overseas. v had a long distance relationship. I was much in love with him. v shared our sexual feelings n v were eager 2 get married. v used 2 hav video calls..almost naked videos. n v also shared our private pics.

Later, d relationship faced hurdles.
To my surprise..He started putting pressures over me 4 everything... starting from dat I shud not go out without his permission.. I shud visit his mom (here in my city) every now n then.. I shud not say a word abt his mom. Everything He wanted 2 go as his stupid mind wanted.

His mom is a crazy lady. she is argumentative n loud at times. N d guy wud favor her everytime. He has no self decision making ability. He is stupid. He is sick. He was trying 2 rule me sitting there in d overseas.

My family realized dat d guy was not rite 4 me. There were family conflicts n I decided 2 end up d relationship. But d question was....wat abt my pics dat he still has wid him? I took a bold step.. rather than dying wid him day n nite... I wud choose getting rid of him..b wat d consequences. After 18 months of love n war relationship..I broke up wid him.

He was aggressive n frustrated. He mailed me my naked pics n warned me dat if I went away..he will print those pics n will post them 2 my family n relatives. I didnt reply 2 his mail...

I was alone n depressed 4 a month or 2 after this break up. Every now n then d thought of facing every1..wen they will knw abt d wrongings I did...wud block my thinking ability. (n this is still worrying me...)

Then I got engaged 2 another guy. He is really gud, matured n responsible man. This is d man I feel I m compatible wid.

D first guy called at my (wud b) in-laws home n said them abt those pics. (as it was expected). But my in-law family thought its all out of his frustration. His call was ignored.

Now...my fiance knws abt pics but not dat they r naked.
m getting married this july. 3 months 2 go. n m jus worried wat 2 do abt this mess in my life. I m ashamed 2 tell my fiance abt my previous relationship. I live in a conservative n narrow minded society. I cant say if asked.. dat yes I HAV MADE A MISTAKE.

I have chosen 2 stay quiet. But it wont work.
wat if d first guy goes 4 few more attempts as b4?
n will I hav 2 live wid d fact sum1 can destroy my social status overnight?

There is no friend I can share my story wid. I jus cant say it 2 any1 dat I clicked such pics. I regret it but m unable 2 4give myself.

How 2 solve this? How shud I come out of this depression?
Please help!

Thanking U!