Bridal party etiquette question..

**asiangrace** · 04-21-2011 05:44 PM

One of my good friends is getting married on May 28th. I am one of her bridesmaids. We have been friends since seventh grade (we are both in our 20's now). Originally, her bachelorette party was suppose to be on May 27th - the night before her wedding. I just received notification that the party has been moved to May 20th. I have Tim McGraw and Luke Bryan concert tickets since February for that same night thinking the bachlorette party was going to be a week later!

Do I sell these tickets and go to the party or just still go to the concert??

She and I are not as close as couple of other girl friends and me. But we are still fairly close. I would HATE to miss her bachelorette party. But I would also hate to miss the concert too. I bought tickets as a gift for another friend of mine whom I consider my "little" sister and we've been looking forward to this outing for months.

What would you do?? Would skipping her bach. party make me a horrible bridesmaid??

**jns** · 04-21-2011 08:30 PM

I suppose you could ask her what she wants you to do. After all, she made the change, not you. She may say it is alright to go to the concert. If you decide not to go to the concert, maybe find a mutual friend with your "little sister" to give the ticket to. Generally, defer to your friend getting married in such a situation even if it causes some consternation. I'm sure you will have fun at either event.

**WildChild** · 04-21-2011 09:14 PM

Wow, who thought a bachelorette party the night before the wedding was a good idea?
While I can't blame her for changing it, she really can't find fault if people have other plans. Simply explain that you have had plans for that date for some time and it isn't something that is changeable. There really is no need to explain what your plans are unless you wish to share that.

Then send some flowers, a fruit basket or a bottle of wine the day of the party, with a note sending your best wishes.

**asiangrace** · 04-21-2011 10:10 PM

Thanks! I will talk to her. I know she will be more than understanding. I just feel horrible. I was not able to make it to her bridal shower either. I had planned a surprise party for my boyfriend's birthday. I had the date set and plans made before the bridal shower was set, so that was another event I could not make it too due to schedule conflicts. If this bachelorette party was for my best friend, there's no doubt in the world I would skip the concert! I just feel stuck since we're good friends, just not super close - if that makes sense.

**WildChild** · 04-21-2011 10:39 PM

It makes perfect sense. Reasonable, adult people understand that other people have lives too and they cannot be in two places at the same time.

**Seeker_Advice** · 04-23-2011 11:36 AM

Concert and keeping a promise/gift to "little sister" trumps the rescheduling of a bachelorette party every time.

If your friend is really your friend, she will appreciate, respect and understand your previous committment.