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    Quote Originally Posted by jns View Post
    Sorry he is destroying what good memories you had of the time. It was best remembered as almost myth and he is destroying that by making it real.

    Whats Funny JNS is I'm having a very hard time remembering any " Good Memories ". I rarely thought of him as time went by. When I did it wasn't with longing, just a sadness, with some anger and shame mixed in.

    The hurt I'm feeling is more at myself, for ever getting involved in the first place, for being gullible enough to believe his Roommate claim to start with. But I'm not going to beat myself up over it again.

    The Fact is that I could have very well ended his marriage last year. I could have shared his texts with the Mrs. Proven he lied to her about how deep the relationship had been. But I didn't.. I thought about it But I Didn't and I'm proud of that.

    I also know now, that even had he texted me the other day, saying he was single again.. I would not want to be with him, I can't trust him, I know men like him never really change. What he did to her he would do to me, as I also found out I wasn't his First Mistress. I feel sorry for his wife, I only know the things he said about her. Those are probably all Lies, made up for my Sympathy, cold and calculated.

    Please understand, Everyone, That I am not, nor do I plan , nor do I want to get back into a relationship with Him, Or any other Married ( pretending to be Single or just Roomies Man ).

    The small little Flutter of the Flame that leapt in my Heart when I realized it was him, quickly was doused with the " How Dare You ". That is exactly why I told him I still had the Texts and was willing to send them to his wife.

    Though it is possible that he only read ( wanted to read ) that I had saved them. That is why I have this feeling that he may show up at my work. But as I said, I have that handled. in my Heart, in my Mind and in my Soul.

    Maybe his contacting me was a good thing in the long run. I feel "Set Free". I no longer will see a Truck like his and Wonder is that my HB ? I will now Wonder what the that Slime Ball is doing at my Store?

    He may have closed the door on our relationship last year, But he never locked it, it seems. But I have closed it and Dead Bolted it from my side. And I will notify the Mrs if he tries to Break and Enter into my life again. She can be his Judge and Jury if that ever happens.

    Dayum I feel Good right now !!!

    And Thanks to everyone, I feel your Concern for me, It is Much Appreciated. I almost didn't post about this the other day. I almost just kept it all to myself, as I have many other issues since I've joined this site.

    Yes I still have some issues I might share, that have nothing to do with Slime Ball. But I am strong and try to handle things on my own. But you all helped me so much last time, and I needed my " Friends and Family" on here, so I Vented. And that's a good thing





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    Quote Originally Posted by oxy-moron View Post
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    Take the good advise you have received here.
    He is using you now and it sounds like he always was.
    Distract yourself with someone else.
    You need to find another or you will remain vulnerable.
    Stay strong.


    Oxy
    Thanks for caring so much. Though He is not Using me now, yes he did before, but I also was very much in the Wrong in my Trust and Love for him.

    As for Distracting myself with someone else ?

    Sweets that is the last thing I need right now. I wasn't looking for him or Love when I met him, it just fell from Friendship, helping him, to something it should not have been.

    I am Perfectly fine and probably better off, not having a Man in my life. Maybe it's my age, but I don't need a Man in my life to feel Complete or Whole. Though someday when I'm OLD, it may be nice to have someone to share the Last Days with.

    I am Smarter, Wiser and much more Prepared to Not be Vulnerable to lose my Heart again, due to this Experience. Hope that doesn't sound like I'm turning into a Fussy Old Man Hater .. Lol





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    It's okay to be anger, I don't use the word "hate" it's too strong and you know for one I believe in Karma and secondly, people are who they are, if we choose to take a wrong turn or, be sucked in by a somewhat "evil" intended person, then is it entirely their fault? Or, was it lesson learnt, for what ever reason we had to who knows..But that is a fact.

    I for one remember vividly your arrival here

    I remember your original user name, that said it all...You believed that, whether he made you believe that or whether you wanted to believe that doesn't matter, that deep feeling can be so strong you never see in front, but you did... remember? Eventually, when he dissed you for smoking, an excuse..

    He had you wanting, he had you almost begging, he had you believing you were special because he was there, yet not sexually so that mean't he wanted you...How to be betrayed for that long, to believe and live in a world that each day you were so in love that it hurt to be in love, only to establish, that this person used...


    Getting angrier?

    You are letting him win again.

    Why?

    Know what happened as you do, do not give him the time of the day, ignorance and wonder is the most powerful revenge ever, hold your head up high, it's over and destroy everything, because whilst anything is there to remind you you will continue with this anger and stop your life from going forward and you know it.
    Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
    It doesn't happen over night
    if truth were to be told.

    Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
    you must believe!

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    BG... most women know these things. They truly do. Many choose to live in the denial. Theres a good chance you send her all those and nothing changes, she stays with him, he calls you crazy... says they were doctored, etc... and she is wishing to be in denial so will believe him, and not some woman she doesn't know.

    Its not worth your energy, nor is it it your place to make play marriage counselor for him and her. She married him, she lives with him every day, the side he showed to you was exactly that... the side he showed to you, he may show her the same side he showed to you and a whole other side he never showed to you. He is obviously capable of living 2 different (or more) lives. And you probably never even knew him as well as you thought.

    Let it go, find peace in the fact that you are no longer apart of his web. Let his wife come to her own conclusions ... its not your place nor is it healthy for you... at this stage in the game, 1 year later, to sit on pins and needles wondering if you should share with her some texts he sent, the racy ones particularly.

    What good would come of that? It would hurt her. If you HAD to tell her he talked to you, he cheated with you... you don't have to give it in painful detail that way. Think of yourself and put yourself in her shoes. What did she do to you to deserve your emotional wrath on her life?

    She's a big girl. She's been married to him a long time. He's been out of your life a long time. You owe her nothing, you owe him nothing... you owe yourself peace and happiness.
    Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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    "Don't ever let your memories be bigger than your dreams"

    let go and say ahhhhhhhh . . . .
    just breathe . . .

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