Thread: help! need some advice!

as i posted a few months ago, my ex lover and i broke our relationship of 4 years off as it was time for him to move on and i had to finally face the issues in my marriage. i am happy to say that my marriage is back on track and i have tried to move on with my life and let my ex-lover move on as well with his new girlfriend of 3 months. that's not to say that it hasnt been difficult to forget the past 4 years with someone I though i loved, but ultimately i realized i loved a fantasy, not reality and i have been through these past few months to get my life back on track.

i am no longer calling him nor bbming my ex-lover anymore like we used to, i am basically giving us both the space we need to move on with our lives. we have seen each other occasionally and i actually met his girlfriend last month and was nice to her as it meant a lot for him if i met her, so i agreed.

i thought we were quite civilized about the whole matter given how much we meant to each other, but lately i feel like he has been acting a certain way just to spite me.

when i was with him and his girlfriend he mentioned restaurants he wanted to take her to that we had gone to, intimate details of their sex life in front of me and he recently took her to a romantic getaway locale where he took me and even called me to tell me about it. he also calls me to ask for restaurant advice on where to take his girlfriend....Is it me or is he being slightly immature about the whole thing? I dont understand, is he trying to make me jealous or is he just so over this situation that he thinks we can just be "friends" all of a sudden? i have not hurt him or been rude to him, in fact on the contrary i am trying to let him move on with his life and me as well, so why is he acting this way?

he claims that he is in love with this new girl and that he wants to get engaged to her in August, and while I am slightly hurt inside I am ultimately happy for him.

i have been nothing but nice to him, so why is he acting so vindictive? if he is so in love then why does it seem like he is trying to prove something to me?

i think perhaps he is trying to get a reaction out of me and although part of me feels like telling him to grow up and stop acting so immature, i dont want to give him that satisfaction so i just keep my cool and act normal.

can someone please help me deal with this situation?