Thread: Needs help before my relationship ruins!!!

I understand both sides of this dilemma. I was once the girlfriend on the back burner feeling like I was second choice, and I have also been the girlfriend with a close guy friend, making my boyfriend feel like he was on the back burner. It happens. It's not necessarily a bad thing, because you can't blame him for having friends and being there for them, but you, as his girlfriend, have every right to question his values. His values need to be important to not just him, but YOU too. An intimate, exclusive relationship between a man and a woman is a special bond. And the way I see it, is having other friendships with the opposite sex is something that can come really close to destroying it. You are his MAIN girl. It's good that he cares about her and wants to be there to support her though hard times, but you don't know HER motives. If they have talked before about dating each other, then that means there are feelings there, but for whatever reason they have chosen not to move forward. She may not be intentionally trying to get in the way, but she needs to realize that she is treading on someone else's territory now. She may be jealous of your relationship and doesn't want to let go. She may be worried about losing her friendship with your boyfriend, so she's hanging on even more now. But she needs to back off. There has to be other friends she can turn to for advice. If she wants to remain friends with your man, she needs to be friends with YOU too. You are a couple, an item. That's just the way I see it. You are in a relationship because he is your everything. Hopefully this means that you are looking for something greater with him, marriage...family, yeah? He needs to agree and put himself in YOUR shoes. Would he appreciate it if you were close with another guy, tending to another guy's feelings and what not?

but he is with her everyother day

COME ON you said it!!!!!!! He is with her and not you!!!!!! He likes her and not you!!!!!!!! ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!!!!!?????????????

she txts him and calls him and when i call him he dnt answer but its like he is treating her like a girlfriend and not me

Trust your gut instinct and see the picture for what it is........he likes her more than he likes you. Sorry but that is the truth, stop all the nonsense about him being there for her because she needs it...........thats a load of carp...........he is answering her call and not yours, he is there with her more than he is with you, your feelings are right and you need to get a grip before you are played around with even more.

Have some self dignity and some pride and get yourself out NOW..........or go through life being the second choice "ooooooooh, but he is sooooo special ooooooooooh he is so great oooooooooh" --------yea so was the kebab I had last night but I don't have a relationship with it.

Stop being the cog in their game and wake up!