Open Marriage support...

**MrsLicciardo0809** · 05-27-2011 10:32 AM

My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married 2 years this August about 2 months ago I agreed to having an open marriage we are both bisexual and so we agreed to have one person of each sex if we wanted. The guy thing with my husband doesnt bother me but the woman part does. It bothers me because I get jealous and I have been unsuccessful in finding a guy of my own I have been stood up, disrespected, etc and even today I had a coffee date with a guy from POF and he stood me up. I am battling depression and already feel worthless because I cannot find a job and my days consist of cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids, and seeing my husband when he isnt asleep ( he has insomnia and goes to school at night) He has one woman and one man he sees quite often and every time he does it makes me feel like killing myself. I have tried to talk to him about stopping this but he claims it makes him happy and I dont want to make him unhappy. We tell each other everything about the others partners we also swing and have threesomes and have done that since we first got together. I keep thinking that its all me and I just need to wait to see my doctor about my medication and depression issues next month. We have great sex everyday or every other day but my heart and insides feel ripped apart when he leaves to go see his other partners and I am left here at our home with the kids. I feel like a prisoner in my own house, I have a car I can go where ever but dragging my 3 kids with me makes me think twice. Any advice as to how to cope would be great. Thanks.

Angela

**WildChild** · 05-27-2011 12:06 PM

It takes very emotionally healthy people to live this lifestyle. I suggest that you check out Loving More Polyamoury. This organization is run by some great people (I know them personally) I think you will find some good information.

I am concerned that your husband is not responding to your concerns.

**lizzardb63** · 05-27-2011 02:37 PM

I agree. Even if you have an open relationship, you are afterall still his wife. He still needs to be there for you and be attentive. He sounds like he is being selfish right now. I understand you wanting to make him happy, but he must want to make you happy too.

**ren_07** · 05-30-2011 10:15 PM

Lizzardb63 has a very good point. You want to make him happy, but doesn't he want the same for you? He must see your depression. And you've addressed you kinda want some of his behaviors to end or at least go on pause while you find yourself a little more. A good man will put YOU the wife before all other less-important things.

Couldn't you discuss him not having relations with certain ppl but still have the threesomes and whatnot since this does not seem to upset you? I think it'd be a good compromise for the time being, and let him know it's not permanent.