Is my bf cheating?
Ok some details about my boyfriend:
He has always been insecure. He has trust issues like any other person. He gets nervous easy. He has mood swings like any other person.
He has always been well groomed. He likes to look nice when going to classes and just over all looking nice.
He has always showered me with compliments and nice words. He has always been very protective in a way because of his insecurities.
He HAS done drugs before though i asked him to stop. Im not sure if he has. This is where problems start coming. He IS a complusive liar whether he realises it or not. He makes little lies here and there. I know what are lies or not because he can say obvious ones right in front of my as for example: lying about things we did when we hung out or over exaggerating on what we did.
Whenever we get in a fight and break up for like a day at most he goes hangs out with another girl to stop the hurt. I dont blame him but i dont like it. He claims now that we have been together for a few months that those other girls don't matter. I still however feel jealous and have my own insecurities. When we hang out the girl texts him and he says he never texts her she texts him. I was in disbelief so he took his phone and said "go the away i have a girlfriend who i love and care for". I found it to be mean. her reply was "i just wanted to say hi". Then when we later checked his phone due to a text from a guy friend he had 3 missed calls. 1 was from that girl. He tends to have other girl friends who like him and want to take him from me. I can't tell if he is cheating. Lately he keeps lying saying he misplaced his phone or his mother took it away since she pays the bill. i know its a lie because he did it before when he had his phone all along. I dont know why he does this to me however though. It hurts my feelings. Whenever i try to ask if there is any other girl he gets mad asking who told me lies and all this stuff. Yet he swears he loves me.
Gahhh I hate head games don't you?
Give him an ultimative, it's only been a few months, he either communicates properly with you as a partner, quits lying, quit trying to get his ego boosted by you, or other girls due to his in-security, quit smoking dope because that makes you paranoid and in-secure and sounds to me like he may still be doing that, although you didn't say what drug, sounds the one to me, and quit treating you as if you don't matter then use his charm to show you do, because that's a cover up another lie, nothing is real when there are so many lies, and to treat anyone like f off in my opinion, I wouldn't be going out with that type of person anyway so why are you?
You say you have your own in-securities, negative breeds on negative...don't you think you deserve better?
Lastly, you don't blame him for going out with another girl when you break up? "To stop the hurt?" or to control you, make you want him more, fear you'll lose him, "see here woman, I can get another so you better accept it"...
Can you see any of this?
Words mean nothing.
Action mean everything.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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