My husband and i have been having marital problems for 3 years now and we don't communicate very wellwe don't have sexI dont know how to shake this jealous feeling and stop worrying he going to leave me due to iour problems and find someone else. he reassures me that he loves me and doesnt want anyone else but how he makes me feel sometimes makes me so insecure. when i talk about my feelings he looks as though he is not bothered.i offer sex
i try my hardest to keep my feelings to myself and i stopped nagging him about looking at slutty womans profiles on facebooki am being to over the top with thisI think that you have to seriousy look at what you wrote and welcome to the Forum.he doesnt go anywhere. i am prettier than her. he says he will not stop being friends with her because of me being a jealous freak. if she was all over him and flirting than yes he would. am i over reacting?
Three years is a long time to have on-going problems in a marriage. You say you don't have sex, in addition, no intimacy, bonding yet you say you offer sex... Why then is there no sex?
Do you believe that people's "spaces" are exactly that? Their own space and that whilst married, there should be trust? I'd be peeved if you were checking my facebook and I was your husband but I'm also disturbed that you view those women as slutty..
You say you are better looking than the co-worker, so you are viewing all women associated with your husband and putting them into a catagory, yes sweet, that is very in-secure but that may stem from 3 years of not having a proper marriage and little or no sex so to me? The problem at hand is not the co-worker , it's solving your marriage..
If you believe that you are better looking then why get jealous, why nag, why call associated friends of his names probably to him and why is there no trust in your marriage...
You have to work on your insecurity and you have to "both" work on your marriage... He is right, she is not all over him, flirting and you are friends with her as well, it's "ok" to have opposite sex as friends, it's healthy..
You say he's always with you if not at work, do you get out? Do you have friends? Or now that you are married you are stuck at home and feel threatened?
I suggest that you join something where you can interact as well with people, make new friends, make a promise to him that you trust him and will work on this jealousy, nagging, in-security and also communicate that a woman needs love, to fuel good emotions so he needs to make an effort to have date nights, to laugh, to hold you, hug you and be intimate as well with you, so you don't go off feeling the way you do on-going which eventually will ruin the marriage anyway as there won't be one, it will be two people living together.