Needed Your Suggestions.. Please Help

**Pinksss** · 06-09-2011 01:08 PM

I Met A guy Few Months Ago..Then We Became A Friends.. After 4 to 5 Day I Came To Know He has A Girlfrnd And He Was About To Break Up With her. As His GF Was having Another Affair .As I Was Just A new Friend And i Dont Know Much About Both Of Them I Decided To Stay Out Of This.. After His Break Up He Was Totally depresed And Was Feeling Very Low.. And even His Health Was Also Reducing. He Was Also Thinking f Sucide..

I Thought I Should Help Him.. And I Helped Him To Get Out Of This Situation..And Brought Him Back To Normal.. I Dont Know When We became Good Frnds.. After a Month He Proposed Me.. I Was Also Involved With Him.. I Said Yes..

His Ex Girlfriend Tried to Contact With Him But He Didint Gave Any Reply.
After Few Day We Came To That HIs EX Girlfriend Tried Sucide Because Of Their Break Up. She Was Not Know That He Was Involved With Me.. As A Human i TOld Him To reply her And Talk To Her As A Frnd.. Firstly He Said No.. Then On My Request He Started To Talk To Her On phone .. She Was Now Ok..

But Now i Cant Tolreate Communication Between them.. So I told Him To Stop talking to her as she is Fine Now. BuT Now He Says That If he Stop Talking To Her Then She Will Again Try For Sucide..

Now Please Help Me Wat Should I Do.. I Know Its My Mistake that i Started their Communication Again.. But.. I Cant handel That He Is Still Talking To Her..I Fear loosing him...

Please Help I M Too Stressed..

**WildChild** · 06-09-2011 01:36 PM

I don't think you need to worry about losing him. You didn't really have him to begin with. Your first instincts were right and you should have kept it as a casual friendship. He jumped into a relationship with you far too quickly and is not over her yet.

I suggest you back away and see what happens.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 06-09-2011 04:01 PM

It seems you have a good heart and respectable. You in your mind "saved" this person, as you said you bought him back, then you nurtured him to do the same to his ex, and so he bought her back... This is really two people whom understand compassion and want to save people, help people.... But, if you think about this, our hearts go out to those whom we "saved" and in that we think therefore, we are "in love". Yet, maybe you were just doing your "job" helping a friend.

It is too hard to close a door that still has a foot in it, keeping it open... You have to realise that even if you didn't open that door, his compassionate side, would have given way and he would have tried to help her in any event...

Your relationship isn't old, therefore, it can go either way... But, ask yourself, you are with someone whom is not grounded, someone whom has talked suicide, may talk suicide again, who suffers depression, and health problems and may continue this throughout his life.. All your life you would be going on a roller coaster, and a depressed person eventually brings you down as well...

You can not save the world, you can only be a part of healing and helping people, ultimately they have to get to be able to stand tall themselves, by themselves..

It's your heart of "helping" that makes you feel you are in love. Love is when you know all about him, everything about him, his life, past and present his future dreams, goals, ambitions, his passions, his favourite colour, his next word, and that takes more than a few months...

What ever will be will be...

When there is baggage and you claim that baggage remember, the suitcase may re-open and travel elsewhere...

It's better always to only enter into a relationship that you know, there is no baggage..

If this guy likes you enough, he will tell her who you are and he will stay with you, not stray and he will possibly remain friends with her, we don't "own anyone" people should be free to speak to whom ever they want, it's trust that we have to have and build on...

But, if he goes back to her because he wasn't ready to move on to start with, then that's the reality, he wasn't ready to move on but "needed you" and in that case, as I said, be wary of whom you get involved with in your life, because no one likes a heart that hurts.

CW