Should i be concerned about my boyfriends "new" female friend?

**keyrose** · 08-02-2011 08:59 PM

So me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 yrs now (with a 1yr old daughter) and we have had infidelity issues before which we have worked out and maintained our relationship. Recently a girl who works at the front desk of the place he goes to therapy got his number from the system database and started contacting him. He ignored the calls for a few days but one night i saw on his phone that he had spoke to her for 30 mins while at work and he had also requested her as a fb friend the same night. After asking him about it, he says he is not into her and that's not even his type of girl that she just wants to be friends and that he told her that he has a girlfriend already so i shouldn't worry. So he didn't contact her for a few days but has now asked for her number again through a fb message. I'm confused as to why he would ask her for her phone number again and i don't know what to do.

**JadedQueen** · 08-03-2011 01:59 AM

First of all I would think that she broke some sort of confidentiality situation by getting his number from her work data base unless she was calling him in regards to an appointment. Have you asked him what they talk about? Or have you seen what they talk about thru facebook? Personally if I were in the situation and I wasn't sure I would tell my bf that if they are becoming friends why doesn't he invite her over for dinner some night so that you can meet her and see if there is anything to be concerned about. If there is something going on between the two of them you would pick up on it if she came over for dinner or he would refuse to invite her because he wouldn't want you two to meet... if that's the case, there would be definate reason to be concerned in my opinion.

**Mes T** · 08-03-2011 02:12 AM

I agree with Jaded, suggest the three of you meet up, dinner at your place being the best option in my opinion...!

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-03-2011 02:52 AM

Recently a girl who works at the front desk of the place he goes to therapy got his number from the system database

How do you actually know that, he told you that? That's firstly a risky thing for her to do, one phone call, pointing to facebook and she has lost her job....Secondly, she would have been warned of this behaviour before commencing her job.

Is it possible given he has had infidelity problems before, wants to maybe settle down, given he goes to therapy not sure what therapy but in any event, and has difficulty doing so, still young I assume...that he, actually flirted alot with her, got her attracted to him and asked be-friended her on facebook...then asked for her number? Spoke to her, lost the number and asked for it again?

All I am saying is I can't see someone who says "good afternoon Jack, please take a seat" can become attracted to someone enough to search their name, risk their job, phone and give their facebook number...Not saying he's lying just giving my opinion/objective on the matter.