Thread: Not sure how to handle this one...

In March 2009, I met a guy on a dating website. We talked a lot on online and after months of asking for my phone number to talk over the phone, I finally gave in and we started talking via phone in November. We have SO much in common and although we haven’t met face-to-face, I have strong feelings for him. In March 2010, he said he wanted to break things off because he had met another woman, who lived in his state, and sensed a connection with her that he wanted to pursue. Heartbroken and devastated we did not talk during this period of time, but remained inactively connected through Gmail and Facebook. In June 2010, I was checking out his Facebook profile and noticed that he had broken up with the woman and completely erased her from his life. Wanting to give him time after his breakup, I waited until August-ish and sent him a message asking what he was up to.

He didn’t mention anything about his breakup, but my assumption something bad took place between them because he didn’t keep her or her family members as a contact as he had done with me. We started talking on and off beginning August/September. There was another brief period of time I hadn’t heard from him because I found out he had been deployed to Afghanistan for a few months. Shortly before he was due back to the U.S. and ending his service with the Marines, he started sending me messages more frequently. He also said that one of the civilian woman working with their unit in Afghanistan reminded him of me…and that her name was even very similar to mine.
I am confused whether or not he still has feelings for me or would be interested in picking up where we left off. I feel that he is sending mixed signals, but perhaps it’s me reading too much into this. However, I still wonder why he didn’t “erase” me from his life like he did the other woman. He has also recently asked me to join a social networking site and texted me until I joined.

I am at the stage in my life where all of my friends around me are getting engaged, married and having children – so it’s difficult to be around my friends as the only single person. I’ve re-signed up for a dating site again, but I’m hesitant to pursue any of my matches because I’m still hanging on to this relationship with this guy because I feel like he is the one for me and am afraid to let him go.

Ahhh!! I’m just so confused on what to do! Am I reading too much into this? Do I let him know how I feel – if so what is the most appropriate method – email, messaging, call (even though we haven’t talked on the phone since he broke things off)? Do I just cut my losses, cut him out of my life and move on without any explanation?