Thread: Don't understand a few things my girl friend says

I wouldnt worry about the picture comment- but whats going on re engangement?? Did it come as a real shock when you asked her?? maybe she threw the ring in shock as to avoid giving an answer? and maybe as jins said she may have come to a decision now? (good point btw)
Or maybe there is a different side to it and she may be playing with you just a bit- you mentioned age in a diff post...your gf is 19 right? Maybe she wants to marry you alright but isnt totally sure yet!! who knows, but one thing for sure tou should sit down with her and have a good heart to heart, tell her you do love her an you were serious and find out if she has the same ideas for your future together.
you sound very sweet, that proposal sounds lovely!!! WAAAAYYYYY better than mine-- haha shes a lucky girl- get your direct answer. you deserve it.

You've asked this woman to be your wife. Don't try to interpret her through Facebook etc. If she posts something that you don't understand, ask her.

If she's throwing her engagement ring at you now, and is prone to temper tantrums, just know that down the road it will be her wedding band she'll be throwing at you.

She needs to understand that being a drama queen isn't attractive, and is not the kind of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. It almost sounds like she's playing games.

Originally Posted by Aiyana25

I wouldnt worry about the picture comment- but whats going on re engangement?? Did it come as a real shock when you asked her?? maybe she threw the ring in shock as to avoid giving an answer? and maybe as jins said she may have come to a decision now? (good point btw)
Or maybe there is a different side to it and she may be playing with you just a bit- you mentioned age in a diff post...your gf is 19 right? Maybe she wants to marry you alright but isnt totally sure yet!! who knows, but one thing for sure tou should sit down with her and have a good heart to heart, tell her you do love her an you were serious and find out if she has the same ideas for your future together.
you sound very sweet, that proposal sounds lovely!!! WAAAAYYYYY better than mine-- haha shes a lucky girl- get your direct answer. you deserve it.

Yeah parents say Shes playing games, she get really tantramy when she doesn't want to something and raises her voice and it gets embarrissing. The problem before was the fact we were seeing to much of each other and she never saw her friends, and now since were back out I can arrange to meet her for the weekend and she will make other arangements for the saturday with her friends and be like oh well Matt you can't stop me, maybe I'm to protective and smothering her to much.

About the marriage proposal, she and I have mentioned it so manny times, that the word marriage doesn't give the same affect now, so I don't no, how or when to do it again so she takes it in. Well the day I gave her the ring, she cryed and said, this was the last thing I was thinking of. And said She said she was ending it that night and did. So I told her to keep the ring. She eventually gave me it back and said next time find a bettEr time. I just get wo confused and she can never give me a straight answer to anything. I always have to guess and read her.

Ok now to answer ur questions lol.

I would love re engagement but don't no how this time.
She was shocked and cryed
And she defently avoided giving me the answer yes

So who thinks I should ask her Friday at the pub?? Just pit it on her finger :S, because that day at the rink was awful when the bloke came out and skidded towards me with ring. And I had to tell her no at the end .
Yeah I'm 21 she's 19.
What would u discuss about our future?

My main question would be: Why is it that you want so badly to marry this girl?

Then: What is the rush on engagement? She's clearly not ready. And as ready as I know you think you are, I don't think you are ready either.

I fear that you have low self esteem and feel like you can't do better....therefore you're trying to seal the deal. Another thing that reinforces my opinion here is that she can act like a child, throw tantrums, boss you around...because she knows you're going to put up with it, and you do. Why?

I spend most my life telling her I love her, I've always said I belive all women should be treated like a princess, not like a piece of meat like some men. Since I've been with her I've had her friends try and get with Me and I've never cheated, she was a beauty therpist too. and I've told her and I've pushed them away everytime. And one said I hope ur girl friend knows what she's got. And the girl begged me and was like please Matt il do anything. And tbh, I really hope my girl friend doesn't carry on being like that. Because I think the world of her and ive told her this manny Times. She told me the other day, she treats them mean and keeps them kean.

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

My main question would be: Why is it that you want so badly to marry this girl?

Then: What is the rush on engagement? She's clearly not ready. And as ready as I know you think you are, I don't think you are ready either.

I fear that you have low self esteem and feel like you can't do better....therefore you're trying to seal the deal. Another thing that reinforces my opinion here is that she can act like a child, throw tantrums, boss you around...because she knows you're going to put up with it, and you do. Why?

Well I've been with her 4 years and my mate was like wtf, and u havnt even asked the question this was 30 of September when me and her went down hill. So I drove 45 miles each way and got her a ring.

I don't have that much self esteem true, I put up with it because someone told me that everyones going to mess you about, you just need to find out whose worth messing you about for, and the one u can Put up with??
And I think she is 100% gorgeous, when I look at her, anything she says nasty or wrong just disappears. She makes me melt haha.
It's really hard to say No, but I've started doing it a lot more.