Thread: Why do some people fall in love too easily?

When I said it interferes with other things - I meant "interferes", not dysfunction. It makes me think about the pursuit (or person) lots and lots. This may just be a personal friendship with another female, anything. But I've noticed it in relation to falling in love, in particular. This makes me unhappy, and in that respect it does interfere. But there may be other depression-related issues at work here too. But I only once ever had a passion/love affair (early 20's) which prevented me from doing the things you suggest and I had to get professional help when it ended. I fell to pieces when it ended and couldn't work or cope for 2 months. A breakdown. That never happened since (40 years ago), but I often wish the idea/person/issue/relationship would go away as it causes me to "think too precisely on the event" (Hamlet). Glad to hear about your scientific interests - mine are classical music, literature, films, languages and politics, plus living in Europe in a city all this year I've fallen hopelessly in love with (except for the next 2 weeks where there is absolutely dreadful construction work going on in the apartment because of a major gas leak. Dust and noise Central here as they 'liberate' the pipes from their concrete graves - all have to be replaced!!). Thanks for the comments.

Its just the way it plays out. Having a good obsession can be the best thing in the world.
If you feel it is becoming an issue there are other things you can do to alter mood and obsession.
Make sure you are having good Omega3 fats in your diet. Stay away from refined sugars and simple Carbohydrates . Make sure you get a bit of sun everyday or supplement with VitaminD3. Get some exercise every day if you can.
Try to surf your positive obsession instead of submerging yourself in it.

Thanks Oxy. It's so difficult to change the habits of a lifetime. I'm living in a major European city with my husband all this year, getting heaps of exercise, travelling, classical music concerts, shopping etc. It won't change my basic personality - that of being vulnerable and inclined to be too passionate about certain people, experiences, places, issues, hobbies etc. Years ago, years, at university a male friend picked up on this instantly and said at the dinner table in the residential school, "Seniora falls in love all the time". Yes, absolutely, I was able to laugh about this but it's so very true. It was a male friend too - and I admired and liked him very much, as he did me. But it only lasted the period of the residential school and he was a mate. But what a man! Musician, multi-lingual, funny, well-read and we had huge things in common. One night we went out for dinner and laughed so hard it fogged the windows of the car and we overstepped the curfew and were locked out of the building. An unforgettable fellow and experience. At the time I was a 40 year old mother of four children, and this never came up!!

Right at this moment it's a particular issue for me and I'm grappling with it head on - but it takes time. But I don't think for me, it can "be the best thing in the world". True, being passionate about things can be - but this isn't really the same, as it's often painful and self-inflicted misery. More balance needed, as well as perspective. But, your comments have given me things to think about. Thanks.