Thank you Steph for your support, well today its been three days since I've spoke with him, and I feel okay. Honestly there are times where my mind wonders what hes doing, if he even misses me, but I have not called him nor do I want to. I have taken him back so many times and I think he expects me to call him. I just figure I look at my kids and I was left with the best thing out of this relationship. And I'm so glad that you were strong enough to leave your relationship, I am trying to be strong to after being weak all these years. I have spoke to the little bit of friends that I do have and they had told me the same thing, to just leave him alone for good. It took me a long time to realized thats what I need to do. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but I'm doing it and I'm sure things will get better.

Miserable Mom,

you've cut ties with him, as far as the relationship goes.
You can change your screen name now. You should make it a happy one.

You have made your first move, im sure it took alot of courage for you to not call him, but as i said yes it will be the harddest thing you will ever do but the best thing you will ever do for you and the kids. Things will get better for you, be strong.

It is hard, I wont lie and say I have not thought about him and wondered where and who he was with, but I am trying to be strong and stress free! I do feel because I did cry by myself last night just thinking about a lot of things, I know he doesn't deserve my tears! I will just think about how my life will be without him, no more fighting late at night, no more loss of sleep, no more bruises on my body, no more him coming in late, no more hearing him call me names and putting me down, no more of hearing his lies, I'm through with it all!! And I thank the girls on here for helping me to cope, your advice was great! I'm not having any contact with him because I know its harder to let go when you still talk to them or see them. I'm just going to give it some time. We still have our kids so I guess hes not out of my life completely but he will not be the part of my life that brings me down.
I'm much better than I was yesterday! I'll just take it day by day.

well Im really glad to hear that you are doing better because this is a VERY hard situation to get out from especially when you have kids but i just want to let you knowthat you are doing a wonderful job and you shouldnt feel dumb for crying or anything like that! you are human!

Its now four days that I have not spoken to my ex, nor have I wanted to. I'm really proud of myself, this is like the longest I've went without wanting to call him sad to say. But thing is I'm more happy that I have not wanted to call him. I drive by his moms everyday on my way to school, and yesterday I saw his car outside. A weird feeling just swept over me, but I did not even think about stopping. So anyways I have a question and need some girlie advice.
I have a myspace page well I have friends on there that I have not seen or talk to in person in years. Well theres also this guy that is really cute, now I sure and don't want to jump to another guy so quick, but is it okay to talk different people so soon? Not hooking up wise just talking? I have never really had any male friends since being with my ex and I feel like I'm cheating on him if I talk to people, even though I broke up with him. Isn't that weird? Another thing I don't go out like I posted before on my first post, and next weekend a group of girlfriends from school, most of them are married, want to go out. They invited me to go with them, but I feel really weird about it, I want to but in a way it feels like I'm taking a plunge into something too soon. Last time we broke up for 5 months before I took him back (it was different then) I was the fool in that one, I was the one he broke up with and the one that wanted him back. Anyways I went out maybe 3 times total in five months, before that maybe 1 time in like a year. Anyways he knows so many people and I'm afraid someone might see me out and go tell him, and him come and do something . He flipped last time and I was lucky he found out I was at the club after I had already left. So should I go out? Or is it way too soon to do any socializing?

When you are in an abusive relationship, a hall mark
is the segregation from others.

As time passes you become so isolated you scarcely
know how to talk to people.

It is a very good idea to get into conversations on line
with all sorts of people, especially men, so that you
can begin to get a feeling of what is out there and
how people relate to each other.

Many women who come out of this kind of isolation
find it very difficult to make friends to engage in
even harmless conversation.

You have to relearn many things, and on line
is the best and safest.

Thanks for the advice Kaylar, I think your right, I have lossed a few friendships being in the relationship, and it was hard to make new friends after that. I guess I just asked because I didn't want to feel like I'm rushing things too soon.