ahhh what "friend"

**gigglez13** · 11-08-2011 11:45 PM

when your "bestfriend" talks to your ex behind your back..what would you do? even tho she knows you still love him

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-09-2011 12:17 AM

Gigglez

So tell us more, like how did you find out, what types of things were she saying to him, how long have you really known her ..

**KMonte85** · 11-09-2011 07:21 AM

That depends entirely on what the conversation was about. You can't dictate who your friends are allowed to speak to. But I believe friends should also have a certain sense of loyalty to each other.

**Goosey** · 11-09-2011 07:54 AM

Completely depends on what they were talking about.

Like if they were flirting behind your back --- awful!

If they were planning a surprise party for your birthday behind your back --- wonderful.

**gigglez13** · 11-09-2011 09:43 AM

the bad thing is that i found out by other ppl not him or her they didnt tell me. Yet when i found out my ex didnt deny it but my "friend" says out loud omg he i s so funny

..n she looks at me when she says that that just gets me super mad!!!!i have no clie what they talk about but he gets super mad when i talk to other guys even if they are just my friends. So i dont know what to do.....

**KMonte85** · 11-09-2011 09:49 AM

It sounds like you ALL need to take a step back and re-evaluate here. Getting mad because your friend and ex had a conversation without your knowledge is a touch immature,as is your ex getting mad at you for talking to other friends (Guys or not). I understand there are underlying feelings here, jealousy betrayal, etc. But you must learn to live and let live.

You can't tell your friend or you ex who they are allowed you talk to.

Your ex and your friend can't tell you who you are allowed to talk to.

If you allow other people's actions to impact you so negatively like this, you're not going to have control over the quality of your life. Why allow someone to ruin your day like that? Why give them that power?

**gigglez13** · 11-09-2011 11:57 AM

I dont get mad i get mad at the fact that they say "i n hate her" or "i hate him he is not good for you you should break up with him"they say they hate the guts out of eachother!it just get me mad they are liers. I dont tell them they should not talk to eachother or to anyone else. But is some comments in my statues in facebook or post in my or photo. I get a immitaly a txt asking who is he and how do i know him. We are not like we use to be but idgaf about it, It bothers me that when he needs something he comes to me and asks and all that. But if i txt him to just talk i dont get a reply until 3 hrs later. Oh and i have keepped up with his jelousy, attititude, selfish games, and insecurity all the time and he cant keep up with mine. I am not any of that but when i have a bad day i go y mood and he gets all mad so that makes it worse. I dont get him he tells me he loves and he doesnt want to loss me but at the same time he is making everything in his power to loss me.

**KMonte85** · 11-09-2011 12:09 PM

So why are you choosing to allow him to keep treating you this way? I understand you still care about him because he's your ex and you shared a close relationship at one time, but you have to stop looking at how it was and look at how it is right now. And right now, he's treating you like garbage. He's not even being a good friend.

You don't deserve to be lied to. You don't deserve to be ignored and only paid attention to on his terms. But for some reason, you're letting him have the power to treat you this way.

Want to know the best way to stop his bad behavior? Ignore him. Ignore his texts, ignore his FB comments, or change your securities so he can't even comment on your stuff. If he asks you questions that aren't any of his business, let him know it's not any of his business. It's time YOU set the terms for how your friendship is going to be with him.

As for your bestfriend, I would have a serious conversation with her... ask her why she is telling you one thing, and acting the complete opposite. She needs to tell you the truth. If she's going to be a true friend then she needs to be honest with you. If she can't do that, then she's not your friend.

**gigglez13** · 11-09-2011 12:37 PM

yea..i dont know why i juat let him treat me like that

the past is the thing that hold use togher and its bad that i cant let go

you know what you are rigth i will ignore him, i can play his game but i can play it better...

well me and her got into a huge fight we are not talking n i am not ganna apolized for anything because i didnt do nothing wrong..she alwayas thinks she is always right.. and she wants to box something i will do just to put her in her place...

**KMonte85** · 11-09-2011 01:01 PM

Take a look at the people you spend your time on, including your ex and your friend, but not JUST them.

Ask yourself if they make your life happier, or if they cause you stress/drama. Is their involvement in your life a positive one? If someone brings you more negativity than they do positivity, then it is time to cut that person from your list of priorities.