Something has me upset, but he thinks its silly?

**Raina** · 12-04-2011 06:45 PM

I was thinking about this earlier today when I woke up and I guess its just how my mind works but it wouldn't have been hard to shove me in there somewhere. Like, "Im sorry you're having a rough time. Maybe you will find someone who will treat you better like Raina does me," or some mumbo-jumbo.

**Little** · 12-04-2011 09:05 PM

It doesn't even look like he's enjoying chatting with her. From my angle, it looks more like a catch-up convo with an annoying cousin than an ex.

**caterpillar79** · 12-04-2011 09:20 PM

Some guys are not elaborate with information about their lives in general, maybe he is like that.

**stariana** · 12-05-2011 09:43 AM

Here's my two cents: It sound like she is having a hard time, and is looking for a nice strong shoulder to "lean" on. Damsel in distress . . . . He sounds like your average guy, thinking nothing of it, other than a conversation. The fact that he's shared it with you is good. But I wouldn't just forget about it. If she is looking for someone to save her, she might not stop until she gets what she wants. And sorry, but some men are just not aware of it until they are sucked in, and end up "confused" about how "this" happened . . . keep communication open, non-judgemental, and wait to see how often she is in communication with him.

**Raina** · 12-05-2011 01:16 PM

They've not said anything to each other since that night. It throws me off that it was kind of dropped on both their parts. I know why he stopped saying anything and thats because of me, but she stopped responding as well without another "I'm bored, talk to me" message.

I have a make a goofy comment though. I've told Bear I somewhat like a female Alpha wolf. If I feel, think, or see another woman possibly moving into my territory I get into a defensive mood.

PS: Sorry for leaving the girls # in the conversation post, I didn't even think to remove it when I was copying and pasting.

**Raina** · 12-10-2011 12:35 AM

I feel like what I was thinking was true. The woman is now with someone and shes not said anything to Bear since the day she hooked up with the other guy. However, I've come across another issue.

A while back me and Bear got into over a girl that we'll name Iris.

Iris and Bear had a little webcam "I'l show you mine if you show me yours" not long after me and Bear hooked up. This was after I accepted being in a relationship with him but before we met in person. I expressed to him I did NOT want him in contact with this woman. Why? Because she was the one that egged it on for the two of them to play dirty on the webcam. She knew I was in a relationship with him and yet she continued anyway. He said that was fine, he removed her from Facebook and said he removed her from his phone.

WELL, his phone announces who messages him, IE: Message from Office! or Message from Dad! So we know who is messaging before you have to check it. This morning I heard it go off while we were sleeping "Message from Iris". He didn't check it, probably because he slept right through it, but if he had removed her from his contacts of his phone then it would've just announced her number. Anyone have any tips how to address this? I have expressed myself in the past TWICE how I don't want him in any kind of contact with this woman but I don't feel like its getting through to him.