Thread: Friendship Struggles

As I mentioned, she has started hanging out with this new friend who is kind of EMO and suicidal, depressed, and negative type and also ended up moving in with her as a roomate. Her friend randomly sleeps with men, meets them off the internet, etc and has ended up getting Chlamydia twice in 3 months.

Something caught my Eye about the EMO "friend " description..

Could " M" be trying to be a rescuer ? Could she kinda feel Trapped in the Friendship she started with Emo Girl ? It also seems " M" kinda emulated Emo Girl a bit. based on your comment (below)

Anyway, back to my friend M. She has changed drastically since starting to hang out with this girl. She is very negative, rude, cocky, and acts like she thinks she is better than everyone else. She has had 4 different boyfriends in less than a year, and she has introduced all of them to her 3 year old son. Has last relationship ended 4 weeks ago, and she is now in a new relationship with a different guy as of today.

1) Emo Girl Sleeps around... "M" has had 4 BF's in a year ?

2) Emo Girl is Negative, type, depressed. " M" is acting in Negative ways ( unlike her normal self ).

I don't believe you are Jealous, I believe you are Concerned.
Should "M" bring home every Guy and introduce them to her Son , Should she have a Suicidal, Promiscuous Roomy that Brings in Internet Strangers to the home around a 3 year old and to top it off, have a sexual Disease 2 times in 3 months. ?

I know you are thinking about " M" and her son,their Safety and Well being . So besides the lil " Talks " you have had, Have you tried the "Back Door Reverse Psychology " ?

This is where you talk with " M " About your ( Made up ) Co~worker/ Neighbor/ 2nd Cousin , that happens to have some Problems.

Like being depressed or is turning Wild, putting herself and her Kids ( plural ) at risk , Has AIDS or was Hurt or her Child/ Children hurt by Strangers in the home .

What I am saying is you can have a " Pretend Person " that you are Concerned about and mention her to "M" and start out casually at first, you can add things that simulate " M "s roomy/ friend, but no so Directly that she catches on fast.

You will get a better " View " of where " M" is, how she would feel, what she would Tell You about your relationship with your New Founded " Person ".
She very well may open up to you about some things that she hasn't, or may feel you would disapprove of, her for it ..

She also may tell you , to back away from " Person" and then you can, in a gentle manner, get " M" to realize she has a " EMO Friend " that is so Very Similar to your " Person" and maybe see the Dawning on herself. Without you actually coming out and Making her look in the Mirror .

That sounds like a good idea. Perhaps I'll have to drop a few things that might seem a little...familiar to her. It might get her thinking about whats REALLY going on....