Thread: Trust issues

I am sorry to hear you have had a Bad or Difficult Childhood. I'd bet that over 75 % of the posters on here, have had what we consider a Bad Childhood, and Many have had Very Traumatic ones.

But as KMonte said, we are adults, we cannot Blame things on that, we can however seek to understand how we behave because of it, how we can change ourselves and reactions, so we can enjoy a loving close relationship with someone.

The past is the Past, we cannot change it. But we can adjust, we can learn from it, we can protect ourselves and others from going thru the things you did ( that allot of us Did ).

And like KM also said, Women Dress up more for Women. The ones who dress up for Men, in General, Not all, are usually on the Market and Free to get the attention of Men. Some women Dress to the Hilt when with their Boyfriend or Hubby, especially in the New Stages of a relationship.

When you say " She takes care of herself more when going out with Others than with you " Where do you and her Go ? Are you going to Home Depot or Sears or a Grocery Store ? Are you going out to eat at a all you can eat Buffet or Olive Garden ?
It does matter where you go together. I'm sure if you made Dinner Reservations and a Nice place, with Table Cloths and Candlelight , She would dress up for you and for the Evening. You could even suggest she wear ( name an Outfit you think she looks Hot in ) and even suggest she wear her Sexy Panties, so when you get home after your Romantic Dinner, that you can Help her take them off .

Maybe offer to learn the Salsa Dancing yourself, It is a Very Sexy Dance. It makes a Woman feel Sexy when she Acquires the Skills. It also is very hard work and an excellent Workout to keep fit.

The Mobile or Cell phone, always Close by, is these days very Normal.

1) They cost a lot, most have a 2 year contract.
2)If lost, they cost to Replace
3)They are the replacement for the old Paper Phone Books ( Numbers listed )
4 )They are an Near "Instant Communication" with Friends, Family, Co Workers,.
Bosses.

If I lost My Cell phone, I'd go Crazy.. As long as she's not Hiding it or Texts or leaving the room when she gets calls or Texts. I wouldn't worry about it.

Her Sexy Underwear, Great Idea for a Christmas Present this Year, Get her something and tell her " This is Our Special Outfit ".

What do you do Hun , for yourself or for her ? Do you work out or lift weights or Play Basketball, Tennis, Baseball, Run or ride Bikes. Do you keep yourself Fit and Attractive to her ?

Do you have a Hobby? What do you do on her Girls Night Out ? Maybe you can join a Club or Gym or do something you would enjoy, a Guys Night Out. So you aren't sitting home thinking she's out Cheating .

Finally she said she is Not Cheating on you .. Accept that. So she leaves her Underwear for you to see. If she was worried or Sneaking, she'd throw them in a Basket or in the Washer.

I knew a Lady who as soon as she got home, her Controlling Hubby had to Smell her Underwear to see if it smelled like Semen or " Ladies Cum ". Don't get to that point in your Relationship. Get Help if you cannot discuss things.

You will Lose her if you accuse her when she is Innocent. She will take only so much and will find someone who Trusts her .
You also will Lose yourself, if you continue to Mistrust her, or any other person in your life.


I wish you the Best.

Sorry about the " Novelist " Post, I have very little time on here these days . And so many Interesting Topics ..