Thread: Thinking of pulling back.....?

Do you have a friend who you are especially close to within the "mommy club," someone who you know well, and who you can confide in? If so, I would take her aside (maybe meet up for lunch or something?) and explain to her how you felt about the the lack of an invite to the party, and how you feel your friendship to the other gals is seeming a bit one-sided. Ask her if she knows if something is up, if one of the other women is upset with you, or if there was something that happened that made the others pull away. She may give you some insight, and she may speak to the others for your behalf, letting them know that you've felt like an afterthought lately. You may even want to talk to the gal who threw the party and (politely) let her know that you were a bit upset that she invited everyone from your group of friends, except you, and that hurt a bit and made you feel excluded. Maybe she has a perfectly good reason, but even if she doesn't at least she'll know how you feel, and the forum for an honest conversation can be opened. Will it be awkward to do this? Yes, perhaps. But it is better than just dropping everyone and having to deal with that awkwardness.

If it doesn't get better, and you still feel excluded, then yes, it might be time to start pulling away from them a bit and finding a new group of friends. Remain cordial for the sake of the kids, stay friendly to the gals you were closest with, but stop relying on them to be your only social avenue. There are plenty of other women out there with whome you can be friends.