Thread: Lost in a relationship

Thanks everyone for the comments. She is very difficult to work with at times depending on the subject at hand. We are currently in a situation where I'd rather sleep on the couch than be in bed with her. Our son came back from being with his grandparents in colorado for a week and every time he comes back he's got that grandparents let me do anything attitude back with him. I'll correct him and he starts to cry and I stay sturn to my corrections. She will correct me and tell me to lay off and in front of him tell him its ok and he can do whatever it was that I corrected. She goes crazy when her parents do that to her yet she does it to me and it pisses me off extremely!

To Lizard and Kygrl, her antidepressants were changed a few months ago because the ones before totally removed her sex drive and she could not climax. The new ones she is on brought that all but her personallity didn't change that much between the two. The date idea isn't good enough for her, she wants "diversity". For me to come up with it all on my own. Candle lit dinner at home won't work because she needs a change of scenery.

To Chandler, I feel that I do not show a difference in emotions between the two. Everynight I attempt to provide emotion to her by having quality time together watching "our shows". She is one of those people that do not like to be touched though. Ex: We went out when we were on vacation and I had to tell her to alteast acknowledge my presence when I tried to be around her. She was running around and just making me follow her. We met up with old Highschool friends of hers and I understand she has old stories they can talk about but atleast introduce me to your friends instead of making me do it myself. It's a small thing but it makes me feel unimportant to her and when I explain that she gets annoyed and tells me to stop acting like that. To her I'm an emotional baby. I will be honest I do love her very much but my interests in making this work are quickly dwindling. I want to be with her but her refusal to work with me on alot of things doesn't help.

To Pretty RI Lady, I am not done but I do have a little resentment towards our sexual differences. She has done some extreme things in her past and she tells me about how sexual she was before meeting me. She was very sexual when we first started dating. Now its practically dead and seems like a chore for her rather than enjoyment. My biggest problem though is when I tell her I'd like to have sex more than once every 2 weeks and I get told I have a problem and that I'm pathetic. I'm sorry but I feel I deserve to have some resentment when I get insulted like that when she knows her lack of desire is very low for a 25 year old.

There is a big difference between not having the best communication in a relationship and being completely disrespected and neglected. You deserve to be treated as if you're a human being. It is NOT pathetic that you want to have sex more than once every 2 weeks. She should have introduced you to her high school friends, you deserve at least THAT much, and she needs to respect your disciplinary actions just as you respect hers. I don't really see what you can really get out of this relationship anymore (except for her son).

Easier said than done, I know...but if I were you, I'd walk away from that relationship. You could find someone who will treat you with respect, care about what you think, say and do, and wants to show you how much they love you every time they see you. This woman doesn't deserve another minute of your effort. I just sucks that their is a child involved, which makes it harder to end things, but I just can't see how things will change if that is truly how she treats you. So sad.