best friend or not

**belinda_davis** · 02-03-2012 06:09 PM

my so called best friend and i have had a huge fight. it was about the fact that she never comes to see me or makes an effort when it comes to our friendship. we were friends for about 14yrs.
it all come out when i asked her to come see me, she can drive and i don't so it seemed fair to me. then she goes on about having a two year old and its so hard blah blah blah. i was going to catch the train and bus with my 6month old to see her.
anyway i still have no desire to talk to her yet. i am wondering if i should even bother to make up with her. i doubt she'll ever change.
what do you think i should do?

**Darling** · 02-03-2012 07:31 PM

People grow apart when they grow up. Long time friendships change as well. You can't expect to have the same relationship you did years back. You both have children and lives of your own. It's time for a change in your relationship. Talk on the phone or email, keep the relationship alive. Don't force it, that will only put more distance between you. Be there for each other emotionally for now, and understand that making time to see someone when you are stressed, busy, and in a relationship, can be very frustrating.

Be patient, show support and friendship even if it means not seeing each other. You could be adding more stress to het life by wanting her to drive out and see you.

**jns** · 02-03-2012 07:34 PM

Some friends require you to do the heavy lifting. Sometimes they bring something into our lives that makes it worthwhile. Sometimes not. If you are not getting anything out of the friendship, consider not pursuing it.