dryer deal with friend

**brunettebabe** · 02-07-2012 07:51 PM

I offered to sell my dryer to a friend of mine. She seems interested in it, but she didn't really say much about it for about two weeks. Then she finally came out and said that she can't afford it and that we would continue working on the deal next month. She also keeps on talking about coming over so she can take a look at it, but so far she hasn't. I don't understand why I have to wait a month and what the hold up is. I don't think it should take that long to come up with the money, to discuss it with your spouse, or to figure out what you want to do. I am only asking for a little over $100 for it, by the way. I don't think thats really that much at all and that it can't be that hard or take that long to get the cash. I tried suggesting a payment plan and I tried bargaining, but all she about those two things is that we will discuss it next month. I think she is being kind of weird about it because of all this stuff. Is she so busy that she can't take some short time out of her day to look at it and to talk with me more about it? Another friend of mine thinks that the deal should off and I am starting to agree. Do you guys think the same thing or do you think I should be patient and follow along with the month thing?

**rosekitten** · 02-07-2012 10:50 PM

Just tell her that you're going to try selling it online. If she wants it, she'll buy it. If you still have it when she's ready, she can still buy it. I wouldn't hold onto it just for her, though.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 02-08-2012 06:49 AM

Who knows...maybe they are truly struggling financially. $100 is alot of money to me...and there are definitely months in which there have been other large expenses that I could not shell out an additional $100. If she says she can't afford it right now, take her at her word.

With that said, if you need to sell the dryer, do as rose said and tell your friend that you really need to get rid of it and are going to post it online and that if no one buys it before she is ready to buy it, you will sell it to her.

**KMonte85** · 02-08-2012 07:43 AM

Times could be tough for your friend, or she may just not be interested and doesn't know how to tell you gracefully.

In either case, you aren't under obligation to hold it for her... it is your dryer, and if you want to sell it, sell it!

**Claret** · 02-08-2012 08:07 AM

One thing has jumped out at me - you say you "offered to sell" the dryer to her. Did she at any time indicate that she needed a dryer? Perhaps if she needs a new dryer, she might be figuring out how to purchase a new one rather than a used one. It is entirely up to you whether or not you hold the dryer for her until she makes up her mind. I'd probably give her one more phone call about it, let her know you are putting it on Kijiji or E-bay or in some type of sale ads and let her tell you definitively whether or not she needs/wants it.
If she indicated that she wants it, has neglected to come see it, I'd perceive this as not wanting to get her hopes up in case she really liked it, but knew she couldn't afford it.
Is there some way you are able to give her the dryer, without payment -- perhaps barter for a service that you need at some point.

**brunettebabe** · 02-08-2012 12:22 PM

I don't think there should be a problem for her to tell me she doesn't want it

**BabyGirl** · 02-08-2012 06:40 PM

It very well may seem hard for her to say she doesn't want it or can't afford it. She possibly just can't spare $100 right now and doesn't want to broadcast her financial problems.

Or she may have changed her mind on getting it or even just waiting for Income Taxes to come in. Though in that situation, it would be respectful to call you and say that she doesn't expect you to hold it for her.

She may have also found another dryer for less, I see them on Craigs List all the time for $50, so she may have optioned out and not wanted to make it seem like you were asking too much for something she could get half price.

Or possibly she re`thought it, what if it broke down a week after she bought it from you , would it cause an issue in the Friendship ?

Allot also depends on how close a friend you are ?

I would as someone said, Just call or text or email. "Hey I'm putting the dryer up for Sale. If you aren't interested or can't get it.. Just let me know."
You will get an answer probably pretty fast. A " Go Ahead, Can't get it right now ".

I know that when I'm interested in something and have the Money,I will go see it ASAP and decide then and there to buy or not. Then again, I also " shop around " especially on Craigs List or that Fijiji, Amazon. If I can get it cheaper, I'll definitely shop a bit.

**Aeryn Sun** · 02-09-2012 12:18 PM

Do you need the space?
Do you need the $100?

If no, give her til the end of Feb to look at it, and if she wants it, tell her that you are keeping it til the first week of March, then posting it online.
You did offer it to her, but she can't expect you to hold on to it forever, and if you wait 1 week into March, that is about a month...