Thread: How to Help Him?

Greetings,

The issue: His work or so I think.

Background: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years, most of which, we have lived together. I just recently graduated college and have yet to find a job, so therefore, my boyfriend has been supporting us for almost two years while I finished college. Since graduation I have been searching for the "right job", however, have yet to find it.

His Issue: Lately, my boyfriend has become really stressed. He normally isn't like this. He is really a laid back guy, but his actions of anger have recently become a true worry for me. I have asked him numerous times what the issue is, however, he just blames work.

My Issue: I want to help ease his stress. I do everything that I can to help out, except financially. We live in a small town where jobs are few and he is not willing to relocate. I know that I need to find a job to help ease the financial means, however, I just wanna know what I can do until then to help ease his stress and anger issues that he is having. I wanna do this without seeming that I'm nagging or such.

Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I also live with my bf and as I am attending university he basically provides for both of us. however, it was actually his idea for me to give up working, so I could concentrate on uni. I know you say you waiting for the right job to come along, but in the mean time, couldn?t you just try getting a job in a shop or something? nothing wrong with looking for a job while you?re working, it could even look better when applying for the job you really want. Try suggesting this to him, if financial issues are your only problems it can only help. There?s no excuse for him using anger, but you can understand why he could be frustrated. luckily for me and my bf I have a student loan, which helps alot towards the bills, but money is tight at the moment and it makes us stressed, so I can understand if you boyfriend is the sole provider why he could be feeling the pressure.