Thread: Don't know what to think

What are you going to do?
Are you going to spend your life running behind him,
checking up on him, and living at his whim because
you 'love' him so much?

Where are you?
Who cares about you?
Do you?

Whether or not he is having an affair with this girl
or some other girl, or he had an affair or he will
have an affair, where are you in this relationship?

There is never any reason to ask a man about another woman.

Firstly, he'll lie.
He'll tell the truth so that it sounds like a lie.
Because when you say;
"What's going on with you and Anne?"
He hears;
"I own you, you can't talk to any other woman but me."

Your mistake was in alerting him that you are aware of
something that might be going on.
This is wrong.
Keep it to yourself.

If someone calls and says; "Your boyfriend and Anne are
at the Burger King now..."
are you going to run off in the middle of the night, or
drop everything to check this out?

This relationship is doomed.

It is doomed because either you are just jealous for no reason,
or more likely, appreciate that something is going on.

Wanting a man to tell the truth about other women
is like wanting 'world peace', nice sentiment. Not happening.

Firstly, there's no way a man can say to his wife/girlfriend;
"I find Anne absolutely captivating. I love to talk to her."
or
"I am so attracted to Anne, but nothing can happen cause
she's a lesbian."

So he says;

"Nothing is happening."

Which a woman hears; "A whole heap is happening but
I'm not going to tell you."

Since you've decided to yoke yourself and your jealousy
to this man, you will spend the rest of your life walking
behind him, until he gets so fed up he dumps you.

Let it go.
If he's having an affair well, nothing you can do about it
except end the relationship, or he'll end it.

That's the difference between people and dolls.
If you have a doll it stays were you put it.
People tend to wander.

this was one of my main problems with my ex before the **** hit the fan, tons and tons of girls that were "friends" it will drive u insane trying to investigate all of it, i got so bad with checking his cell that i wrote down his phone book from his old phone so when it was girls calling i could tell who it was, drove me insane, if your not an insecure person and u feel something is not right with the situation u should come right out and tell him ur not comfortable with it, if he really cares about you he wont want u to be uncomfortable, his cares should be focused on you, in my situation it was quite obvious that his attention and thoughts were focused elsewhere, so basically my pi skills drove me nuts for no reason, were not together and hes still a **** hope this works out for u, dont drive yourself crazy stalking, u dont need the stress.