OMG! Where do I begin. In a nut shell.........It all started as us hanging out as friends with friends (nothing serious). We all (friends 4-5) hung out at family/friends gatherings, parks, etc. I am sure you get the picture.. it was good times. He lived alone in an apartment no children and his apartment was always an open invitation if I ever wanted to visit. I very seldom visited his place, but always met him outside the four walls with/without our friends. Needless to say, nothing unsual, no unusual behavior, we traveled on vacations several weekends, went on many outings and things were going quite well until...........

Why for no reason i picked an argument (as i would sometimes do), yelled and told him i was tired of seeing him and needed a break. i tried to place guilt on him only to have him to honestly think he was a problem and pour his heart out to me. I almost went into pieces when he said he was married, but had been separated for the last 3 years. When asked why he never disclosed this information he std he did not want to lose me. I was so freaking annoyed! I asked him early on before we began seeing one another exclusively....... r u married, have u ever been marrried, lived with a woman, kids...NO,NO and NO! was his answer(s) There were no signs...listen to this...his reason for not divorcing was because of financial reason, but plan on divorcing by year end. Imagine...all the friends KNEW he was married, but said they have never seen him so happy, but he was SEPARATED! He deceived ME! He knew my beliefs on dating a MARRIED man! I am not and have not spoken to OUR friends NOR him for the last few weeks. I am still trying to digest what was overlooked.....It was a blessing to get angry over nothing only to find something. He has called every hour on the hour, left messages for friends to have me to call him. I caanot beleive anyone hid this from me. I feel so horrible. He says that his wife (do u hear the violin playing) fell out of love wit him years ago. He was famous for telling me "stories" of friends only to find out he was talking about himslef. Whatever happened in thier marriage I have nothing to do with it and want NO part of it!

I asked at last......how could you...i am very intuitive and can pretty much reaf a person after a few conversations. How in the heck did i miss it? He was truly a good hearted person, but lost. As i explained, you never deceive another to your advanatge. He loved the friendship and conversation. He said I did not care about his money, but was there to listen, share and have fun all the time. Y ne? Y can't we just be honest with each other...honesty is key...he appeared so loving, truthful, he always called no less than 5-6 times a day, sent flowers, was always available.

I am so angry, but still like him, but it is not hard to walk away. I just cannot listen to HIS and OUR friends explanation. I still cannot fathomed NO ONE told me.......**** hes SEPARATED..............HES MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!! I am SO ANGRY...

You have a right to be angry. You did everything
you could to insure that you were not getting involved
in a married man.

You checked his flat, he lives alone. He seemed to
have time for you when you wanted time.

He could have said, "Yes, I'm married but separated."
Then he's a friend, cool. Hang together, but he's
married so he's not your boyfriend. No problem

But he made it a problem by lying.
And then giving you the lame...

(trust me, I didn't have to read it to know what
he would say, they all say exactly the same thing..
'didn't want to lose you'....and of course, it is always
the wife's fault.

Your friends are not your friends.
They should have told you.

In fact, if you didn't have them for friends
your intuition would have kicked in, but they
made a lot of static.

He wants to see you?
Bring the Divorce Certificate come.

What financial reasons?

Is he hiding out in the city to avoid paying
alimony or maintenance for his children?
Hmmmm?

Who knows.
And you certainly won't get anything like a straight
answer from him.

I'm glad you found out!

You didn't lose a thing; but you gained some knowledge.
Now you know what to do should another come around and try to pull the same game on you.

Good going, Carly!

Take your time, breathe easy and you'll find the right person for you when you least expect it.