Thread: after 2 yrs he announced he's MARRIED

OMG! Where do I begin. In a nut shell.........It all started as us hanging out as friends with friends (nothing serious). We all (friends 4-5) hung out at family/friends gatherings, parks, etc. I am sure you get the picture.. it was good times. He lived alone in an apartment no children and his apartment was always an open invitation if I ever wanted to visit. I very seldom visited his place, but always met him outside the four walls with/without our friends. Needless to say, nothing unsual, no unusual behavior, we traveled on vacations several weekends, went on many outings and things were going quite well until...........

Why for no reason i picked an argument (as i would sometimes do), yelled and told him i was tired of seeing him and needed a break. i tried to place guilt on him only to have him to honestly think he was a problem and pour his heart out to me. I almost went into pieces when he said he was married, but had been separated for the last 3 years. When asked why he never disclosed this information he std he did not want to lose me. I was so freaking annoyed! I asked him early on before we began seeing one another exclusively....... r u married, have u ever been marrried, lived with a woman, kids...NO,NO and NO! was his answer(s) There were no signs...listen to this...his reason for not divorcing was because of financial reason, but plan on divorcing by year end. Imagine...all the friends KNEW he was married, but said they have never seen him so happy, but he was SEPARATED! He deceived ME! He knew my beliefs on dating a MARRIED man! I am not and have not spoken to OUR friends NOR him for the last few weeks. I am still trying to digest what was overlooked.....It was a blessing to get angry over nothing only to find something. He has called every hour on the hour, left messages for friends to have me to call him. I caanot beleive anyone hid this from me. I feel so horrible. He says that his wife (do u hear the violin playing) fell out of love wit him years ago. He was famous for telling me "stories" of friends only to find out he was talking about himslef. Whatever happened in thier marriage I have nothing to do with it and want NO part of it!

I asked at last......how could you...i am very intuitive and can pretty much reaf a person after a few conversations. How in the heck did i miss it? He was truly a good hearted person, but lost. As i explained, you never deceive another to your advanatge. He loved the friendship and conversation. He said I did not care about his money, but was there to listen, share and have fun all the time. Y ne? Y can't we just be honest with each other...honesty is key...he appeared so loving, truthful, he always called no less than 5-6 times a day, sent flowers, was always available.

I am so angry, but still like him, but it is not hard to walk away. I just cannot listen to HIS and OUR friends explanation. I still cannot fathomed NO ONE told me.......**** hes SEPARATED..............HES MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!! I am SO ANGRY...