Thread: I really need you gurls

Kira,

Don't nag. It only drives a person away from you.

He doesn't show you all the attention that you like or say the thing that you want him to say every minute of everyday because he's got you! He see you everyday and you see him; so he doesn't have to try as hard as he did in the beginning because he's got the girl he was after.

So now he's settled in.

Ever tried joining him in a game or two?

Exactly! Good point!

I've been married for many years, and I used to get just as sick of a basketball, football, baseball or hockey game! Even golf and tennis got on my nerves!
But, Kira, guess what? I sat down WITH my husband to see what it was he got out of the game.
I wound up enjoying the games myself!

Now I watch all the sports just about... and will sit there and shout and scream at the tv in a minute! I'm crazy about a hockey game (not surprising, seeing that I used to play that when I was a kid).

Anyway, you want him to "come to you" and treat you in a certain way; how about you stepping into the game console and asking him to show you how to play.
That way, it's more like you're a bit interested in his hobby and not so wrapped in what you want all the time.
He may just come around and do what you've been asking him to do.

Originally Posted by *~Kira~*

Hey guys I really thank you for your comments. I tried just that and he told me that Madden was his time. So I respected that. Now he did something that kind of hurt me and he doesnt understand why. As I said before he is crazy about his console. Madden 08 comes out aug. 14 next week basically. So he took vacation so he could have a week to play it and guess what. He returns to work August 20 MY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!! So he is willing to take vacation for a ****** video game but goes back on my birthday. I'm not saying its a national holiday but I dont want to spend it alone. My family lives in michigan and he is all I have here. The way I see it is theres no point he has already been approved for the vacation. Do you gurls honestly believe I'm over doing it or do I have a right to be mad? be honest please.

Kira,
Man, he's really stuck on those games!
So he says "Madden was his time".... DANG!

He's willing to go on vacation to wait on a game to come out, but he's not going to include your birthday in his "off" time?
I don't know Kira... this sounds like one of those times where the Kaylar advice comes into play: go on YOUR OWN vacation for a little while.
I mean it's your birthday, right? So why NOT take the time to pamper yourself... go shop for YOU; go to the spa for YOU; don't you have some girlfriends you can hang out with? Maybe go back home to MI with your family and spend your birthday there!

Let's see if Mr. Madden 07 (or whatever) even notices that you're gone.
If this situations stays the same after you come back from celebrating your birthday, then it's time to consider making some changes.

Originally Posted by *~Kira~*

you know thats not a bad idea, but I really cant go anywhere on a short notice lol. I really do appreciate your advise for me and i do thank you for taking a moment out of your day to help me. I dunno what to think anymore. I give him his space when it comes to his madden and we watch football together on seprate sides of the coach. The more I distance myself from him and when I come to him he runs away and says he needs his space. I dont wanna play this childish game of cat and mouse. Why are men so immature? lol

Ok, Kira.... so you can't go anywhere on a short notice. But do you think you'd be able to go have a nice birthday with some girlfriends? Maybe you and the girls can go do some shopping; buy yourself something; maybe hit the spa and do some pampering for yourself, then go out and have a great time! Make sure you all go to your favorite restaurant.

Yes, he may not be as mature as you'd like him to be, but it sounds like after you've enjoyed your birthday, you 2 should have a real heart-to-heart talk to see where things are headed.