Thread: UPDATE___Freaking out

Thank you for the update!
I think I would feel the same way you do. I do like the fact that she is moving away. That should help some of your anxiety! Just hang in there. I know you said he is 34, sorry if you already said, but how old are you?
Trust does take time and it is not an ideal situation that he has with the ex...but do have faith in him. It almost sounds like an amicable divorce. My ex and I get along fine and at first my new hubby was really uncomfortable with it (my ex and I have a daughter though so contact is kind of a must-dang it) but anyway....my new hubby was really nervous and thought I would want to get back together with my ex (this was when we were first dating). I had NO DESIRE to be with him ever again. I loved my new man and the thought of being intimate with my ex made me shiver (in a bad way) but I didn't want to be hateful towards him either. It is so much easier to be friendly with an ex if the split wasn't horrible. I guess if they were fighting all the time that might be cause to worry...ya know? Like they have some issues that still need resolving....by them "getting along" that tells me that they are both over each other and have respect for each other and probably wish each other the best in the future-WITHOUT each other. That is how my ex and I are. He has remarried, I remarried and I couldn't be happier for him and he feels the same. Our conversations are never heated. I hope that helps you a little. Oh, and just so you know....my hubby is totally secure with it now. He even thinks my ex is an ok guy...they can talk and joke around....it took a little while for my now hubby to see how in love I really am with him and NOT at all with my ex. My now hubby is 10 years younger than me too. He is really handsome and sexy to me and I let him know that all the time!

Originally Posted by switzgirl

goodness...you are just not understanding....and i'm pretty sure your not even open-minded enought to take in what i'm trying to explain to you----you just referred to me as "dearie"...i'd say thats belittleing. And all of your under-lying sarcasm is almost funny..I'm not a child so please dont talk down to me. everything is fine though hun.....take care

You know what, Switzgirl?
Perhaps I wasn't understanding you enough; and maybe not even open-minded enough.

I just posted this to apologize to you in what you're going through.

I hope all works out for you-- and just trust the new love in your life. Things will work out well for you.