My boyfriend's ex girlfriend before me was blonde. I discovered he was dating the 2 of us for the first couple of months that we met. Basically, he was cheating on me with her and cheating on her with me. I know that normally his type is blonde girls because it has been said by him and or his friends in the past. This happened over a year ago and it is still hard for me to get over!!! Today at I Hop I flipped because he was looking at a blonde girl. He says he was just day dreaming and was just looking at her but for no particular reason. I know he is telling the truth because we both stare at people in public places (I dunno why) but I just can't help it when he looks at someone who is BLONDE!! We got into a huge fight and almost broke up over it because he said it is time for me to start trusting him. And I know it is. He has been proving himself ever since and is ready for me to move in with him, I just get so nervous.

How do I make it stop?? It's like I trust him until a Blonde girl in the room.. it's sickening.

Please help!

You trust him until a blonde girl enters the room?... How do you trust him at all when he was dating you and another girl at the same time?

Don't you smell "bad news" when you're around him?

I really think you're self conscious when he sees a blonde woman. I used to get like that when i would think my boyfriend would look at prettier girl than me and we almost broke up too but then I realized that I really needed to trust him because I just wanted to have a good time with him and not worry about other girls I really think its the fact that his ex was blonde really gets to you if she was a brunette then maybe it would have been a different story I really think you should try to work things out with him and everything will OK! dont bring the past into your future!*

I think it is all up to the male. There are gorgeous brunettes, redheads, blondes and everything in between. You said you both stair off at random so you shouldn't be upset about that just that you think he may still think about his ex. He is dating you because he likes you and he just looks at other women because when you look at others it hurts his ego.

How do you trust him at all when he was dating you and another girl at the same time?

Point well taken, Ravs!

Michy,
have you always felt this way about blonde-haired women, or is it just his former girlfriend that makes you have this reaction?

As Euromuffin mentioned, there are women of different hair types that he could be looking at.
You both watch other people when you're together.

Maybe you 2 should discuss that for a moment... maybe it's innocent staring, but discuss it.

Well thank you so much for your advice BUT we broke up. He has been a rotten SOB. I caught him on the website HOTORNOT talking to other girls. Well I guess my gut instnct was right!!! He says that it was a joke with a couple of his buddies at work, but I don't trust him! Funny thing is... he blames me! =( grrrrrrrrrrr

Michy,

I'm so sorry to hear that happened.

I'm glad you followed your "gut" instinct and made the decision that was best for you.
He blames YOU ???? How in the world ........ ??????

Don't worry. You'll find someone that will be just for YOU.