Thread: Long-Distance: Is it worth it?

I have been in long-distance relationships. They can work, but only if you make them work. Only if you're strong.
I wouldn't consider seeing my man every 2 weeks "long-distance," but that's because I am dating a guy in the Army. After he goes to post at the end of the month, I won't see him again until Christmas-time ... if he gets leave, maybe. And after that, who knows? He's going to be in training over the summer for 5 months where he'll not even have enough time to write me a letter.
Because I love him, I am willing to stick it out. We've been dating for 4 months, and he treats me just like a little princess. I respect him as a king. Neither have I been in a relationship quite like this, healthy and happy, so I am going to be strong and stick it out for him.
Are you in school? Don't move for him (yet, anyways) if you are. In case you live in TN, definitely don't give up your lottery scholarship! Talk to him about moving before you ever do. Don't depend on him in the move, except perhaps if you have large furniture and need someone to help. Things like that are fine; what I mean is, don't expect to go live with him. Find your own place, your own job, and make sure they're just as good as the ones you have now. Take as long as you need to move; don't decide to do it then feel like you have to do it that month ... or even that year! Just go in the direction you want.
Start out by talking to him. It sounds to me like you have a healthy relationship that could prosper. The biggest question in long-distance relationships is "is it worth it?" and only you can answer that.

It sounds to me like things are working so far. Seeing each other a couple times a week helps. If you truly trust him, then just try to remind yourself of that if you are feeling insecure about it all. The insecurity and jealousy is usually why LD relationships end up not working. Just try to keep a clear head and appreciate what you have.

If you think there is a big future between you two then the time waiting will fly by. I'm assuming you get to see him more on school breaks and what not. And who knows, maybe in another year you'll be able to move closer.

it sounds like things are working out.i wouldnt worry about it.insecurity can really hurt a reltionship.just a tip to help you out not that you are.but it does take a lot of trust and strength.you candt what if things either.sometimes it sucks but if your in love its totally woth it.best of luck

Well, i tried a long disstance relationship. I have been together with my boyfriend for about 1 year and 4 months when i found out that i was moving to america and i was in england. Obviously we were both upset and to make it worse it was on my 16th birthday that i was moving. We decided to stay together. we truely loved eachother theres no denying that. well we kept in contacted over the internet and the phone but gradually i could tell that things arent the same. about 4 weeks possibly less after i moved we agreed to break up, i really didnt want to because i love him and still now i do. but the other day he told that he didnt have feelings for me anymore becuase we are so far away from eachother i ws completely deverstated. But to be honest you have to think of it wisely if your young like me that he's one of many and eventhough you loved him you knew deep down that it wasnt going to last long. Im going back to england in june next year and i wish it would all be the same but it wont. everyone keeps saying to me oh dont owrry you'll find another boyfriend in america but i dont want to i love him still....life is soo difffercult. I miss him terribly. luckily we have agreed to stay friends and always talk to eachother whenever, also when i go back to the UK its my graduation ball of my old school and we have promised eachother that we will go together i dont know whats going to happen about that though...
I knwo this isnt much help but i wanted to tell my story...if anyone has a good way of getting over someone you love and how to make convasation with a boy after breaking up please reply. i could do with some advice. i would love to hear any of your similar stories, maybe it will help.

I read this site written by a guy complaining about things ...
"Hint: friends don't despise each other. Friends don't feel the urge to have a stiff drink after bumping into each other on the street. Friends don't avoid eye contact at parties."
I agree with this statement; I'm not sure that ex-lovers can really be friends. I have had to cut off all but the most civil of relations with most of my exes, as horrible as that can be.
Good luck to you