ok me and my boyfriend broke up a month in a half ago. Well i noticed he has takin intrest in the single life so i decided since he is whats holding me back? I went to a party with my gurls and guess who I run into there..... my first love. We clicked right away. When we went out we were just freshman and sophmores in high school but now were graduated and in our twenties. He has matured so much and he is what I would consider my perfect guy. He is sweet laid back tells it like it is funny ambitious goal orientated etc. Well we talk all the time we chill all the time I have gone to his martial arts competetions and i have rekindled with his family again. BUT I'm still in love with my x boyfriend and it still hurts me to see him with someone else. Its funny I have the perfect guy in front of me and i still am in love with my no good ****** x boyfriend. Will it be wrong if i continue this relationship or should i put it to a stop? I have very strong feelings for this guy but its not love. WOW what a mess.

Give it time ... give yourself time. Do you really want to be in a relationship right now? Take it slow, let your current guy KNOW that you intend to take it slow, and give yourself time to figure out how you feel about everyone. Don't rush.

"simplyme" is this the same b/f that you still live with, sleep with, and have sex with? i'm not sure that all those situations constitutes a break-up..(i'm not judging i'm just going by your earlier posts)..i agree with "little".. play the field and meet new men or continue seeing your first love, but take things SLOW..getting into a physical relationship with some one new if you are still involved with your ex will cause you more anxiety than you appear ready to handle right now..

NO things have changed since I laid down some rules. Since he thought he could play the field and still have me I changed it up. We sleep in seperate rooms I try to not cross his path. We kinda keep our distance now.

sorry if it seemed i was prying but i was giving advice based on what appeared to be going on in your life..you are trying to avoid him but there has still got to be some tension there: good luck..