
Originally Posted by
kaylar
This Western Idea of Love is a learned response.
Further, it is one in which people make decisions
which benefit them.
Sure, you'll find the random fool who throws it
all away 'for love' (lust) and when it ends,
two three four years down the line, they can
appreciate that they had given themselves over
to animal passions, which, as animals will prove,
doesn't last.
Further, this constant defining ourselves by
men and being in love has impeded our progress.
The base fact has to be;
I feel good about myself.
It can not be--
I feel good about myself because
my husband loves me.
It can not be any outside force or person who
defines our mood, our feelings of self worth.
In many cases you'll find the wife who learns the
husband is cheating suffering physical anguish.
She becomes physically sick because it is as if
a 'part' of her has been torn out.
Yes, it happens for a man as well, but the fact
that the impact on a woman...
'he destroyed my whole world'...
needs to be compared to
'she destroyed our marriage'.
In this case it is first water wash.
There's a reasonably attractive guy, she needs to have
a reasonably attractive guy to feel 'whole' hence she
will put bandaids on machete chops so that she can
fool herself into believing that she's in love and he's
in love with her.
Bookmarks