Someone Please Help Me Im Going Inane - Page 2

**Gia** · #11 10-19-2007, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by *~SimplyMe~*

My final update after I posted this post I thought I was recieving a call from friend but it was her fiance. He called me a and said he wasnt ****** he knows i contacted the police and if i continue to keep in contact with her he would file harassement charges against me. He told me to mind my business and what he does is none of my concern. than he called me a ho and hung up. I didnt want to call back and create more problems for her. I was so mad. I started crying and punching the wall how could she lie to me like this? Why was he calling me from her phone? I was so mad. I reached my hand out to her and she denied me. Than she texts me today saying she is sorry and she wants my help and she cant talk to round him. If she wanted my help why didnt she leave when she had the chance?/??????? Im so confused. Can he really file harassment charges against me for calling HER phone and not his? He was the one blowing up MY phone for the last three days.

Just to protect yourself and your friend, purchase an inexpensive telephone recording device. They are the most efficient and the least expensive at Radio Shack (approx $16.00). The Radio Shack salesman will show you how to set it up. Believe me, it's very easy. I caught my soon to be ex-husband via a Radio Shack recording device ordering "phone sex and an escort service with our joint credit card"! I used this in court at our divorce hearing!

Although the wire taping/eavsedropping laws protect the abuser (because the persons being recorded are supposed to know ahead of time that they are being recorded or else they can threaten you for invading their privacy), In this case, Your friends life is worth more than the ridiculous "wire taping/eavsedropping laws!" Do not tell anybody that you are recording the phone calls! If he severely beats her up, you can phone the Texas police and file a second party complaint against your friend's abusive fiancee (play the recorded tapes of your friend being abused (screaming) and her fiancee threatening you to the police and the detective on call. This way, the police will definitely take you seriously and have a warrant for his arrest. Also, recommend that your friend phone a women's shelter so that she and her children can stay there for help! Shelters have on staff: many women's advocate counselors, social workers , women's attorneys. They will point your friend in the right direction! Call her local police department in Texas for the closest Women's shelter!

To protect you and your family, you need to file an "Order of Protection, same as a Restraining Order, also referred to as a Harrassment Order against him!) Go to a Free Legal workshop in your county. Ask about Sliding fee scales. You can file this restraining order against him on your own and it will cost you no more than $50.00 on a sliding fee scale. Free in some states and counties!

Please don't take anything your friend does personally. She is abused and confused. She knows that you want to help, she most likely wants to protect you from her fiancee by declining your offer to help her. Also, she is being mentally and physically abused by her fiancee. He is "brainwashing" her and now has a great deal of power over her. Don't take this personally. She will come to you when she is ready.

**dr.mansview** · #12 10-19-2007, 06:40 PM

[quote=Gia;21045]Just to protect yourself and your friend, purchase an inexpensive telephone recording device. They are the most efficient and the least expensive at Radio Shack (approx $16.00). The Radio Shack salesman will show you how to set it up. Believe me, it's very easy. I caught my soon to be ex-husband via a Radio Shack recording device ordering "phone sex and an escort service with our joint credit card"! I used this in court at our divorce hearing!

Although the wire taping laws protect the abuser (because they are supposed to know ahead of time that they are being recorded or else he can threaten you for invading his privacy), In this case, Your friends life is worth more than the ridiculous "wire taping laws!" Do not tell anybody that you are recording their phone calls! If he severely beats her up, you can phone the Texas police and file a second party complaint against your friend's abusive husband (play the recorded tapes of your friend being abused (screaming)and her husband threatning you to the police and the detective on call. This way, the police will definately take you seriously and have a warrant for his arrest. Also, recommend that your friend phone a women's shelter so that she and her children can stay there for help! There are many women's advocate counselors there, women's attorneys. They will point your friend in the right direction! Call her local police department in Texas for the closest Women's shelter!

To protect you and your family, you need to file an "Order of Protection, same as a Restraining Order, also referred to as a Harrassment Order against him!) Go to a Free Legal workshop in your county. Ask about Sliding fee scales. You can file this restraining order against him on your own and it will cost you no more than $50.00. Free in some states and counties on a sliding fee scale![/quote]

you are one woman i would not want to cross..

**Gia** · #13 10-19-2007, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by dr.mansview

[quote=Gia;21045]Just to protect yourself and your friend, purchase an inexpensive telephone recording device. They are the most efficient and the least expensive at Radio Shack (approx $16.00). The Radio Shack salesman will show you how to set it up. Believe me, it's very easy. I caught my soon to be ex-husband via a Radio Shack recording device ordering "phone sex and an escort service with our joint credit card"! I used this in court at our divorce hearing!Although the wire taping/eavsedropping laws protect the abuser (because the persons being recorded are supposed to know ahead of time that they are being recorded or else they can threaten you for invading their privacy), In this case, Your friends life is worth more than the ridiculous "wire taping/eavsedropping laws!" Do not tell anybody that you are recording the phone calls! If he severely beats her up, you can phone the Texas police and file a second party complaint against your friend's abusive fiancee (play the recorded tapes of your friend being abused (screaming)and her fiancee threatening you to the police and the detective on call. This way, the police will definitely take you seriously and have a warrant for his arrest. Also, recommend that your friend phone a women's shelter so that she and her children can stay there for help! Shelters have on staff: many women's advocate counselors, social workers , women's attorneys. They will point your friend in the right direction! Call her local police department in Texas for the closest Women's shelter!

To protect you and your family, you need to file an "Order of Protection, same as a Restraining Order, also referred to as a Harrassment Order against him!) Go to a Free Legal workshop in your county. Ask about Sliding fee scales. You can file this restraining order against him on your own and it will cost you no more than $50.00 on a sliding fee scale. Free in some states and counties

you are one woman i would not want to cross..

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Hi Dr. Mansview,

I guess I should consider this to be a compliment!

**Gia** · #14 10-19-2007, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by dr.mansview

[quote=Gia;21045]Just to protect yourself and your friend, purchase an inexpensive telephone recording device. They are the most efficient and the least expensive at Radio Shack (approx $16.00). The Radio Shack salesman will show you how to set it up. Believe me, it's very easy. I caught my soon to be ex-husband via a Radio Shack recording device ordering "phone sex and an escort service with our joint credit card"! I used this in court at our divorce hearing!

Although the wire taping/eavsedropping laws protect the abuser (because the persons being recorded are supposed to know ahead of time that they are being recorded or else they can threaten you for invading their privacy), In this case, Your friends life is worth more than the ridiculous "wire taping/eavsedropping laws!" Do not tell anybody that you are recording the phone calls! If he severely beats her up, you can phone the Texas police and file a second party complaint against your friend's abusive fiancee (play the recorded tapes of your friend being abused (screaming)and her fiancee threatening you to the police and the detective on call. This way, the police will definitely take you seriously and have a warrant for his arrest. Also, recommend that your friend phone a women's shelter so that she and her children can stay there for help! Shelters have on staff: many women's advocate counselors, social workers , women's attorneys. They will point your friend in the right direction! Call her local police department in Texas for the closest Women's shelter!

To protect you and your family, you need to file an "Order of Protection, same as a Restraining Order, also referred to as a Harrassment Order against him!) Go to a Free Legal workshop in your county. Ask about Sliding fee scales. You can file this restraining order against him on your own and it will cost you no more than $50.00 on a sliding fee scale. Free in some states and counties

you are one woman i would not want to cross..

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Hi Dr. Mansview,

I guess I should consider this to be a compliment!

**dr.mansview** · #15 10-19-2007, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Gia

you are one woman i would not want to cross..

Hi Dr. Mansview,

I guess I should consider this to be a compliment!

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yes it was..
yes it was..

**JubesInquest** · #16 10-22-2007, 09:01 AM

Gia makes a good P.I.!!!! LOL

She's on point, though.

As far as the eavesdropping/wiretapping - recording laws go, I believe it varies from state to state, b/c in my state, only ONE person is required to know if the conversation is being recorded or not.... and that one person would be the one doing the recording! LOL!

SimplyMe,

I'm sorry about your girlfriend. Everything looked and sounded so promising; but she has that battered-woman's syndrome.
She has to keep proving her loyalty to this abuser; or else he'll beat her again (if he hasn't already beat her up for the police coming by). Don't give up hope on her. You're probably the only link she has to helping her break free of this man.

Great job you're doing.