Thread: should i leave him and find myself>?

Its just so hard to see myself with out him! i have been feeling this way for awhile now though and im scared to talk to him.
" i know we have been talking about marrage for awhile now but i dont even think i want to be with you " yikes! we are just two differant people! I do know he will make someone really happy. He has a huge heart. i just am not ready to settle down completley. i just wish he was more fun!

My thoughts -

Whether or not the outcome would be splitting up or working things out and staying together you really need to talk with him and let him know how you feel, especially if you are having doubts. Settling things now is much easier and less hurtful than after getting married.

One of the things you might be feeling is an apprehension
that when you marry him he might abuse you.

Verbal abuse is domestic violence. For some men, it's as
far as they go. For others, it's a way station before
physical violence.

Because you mentioned it, it is important. It may sound
like the 'only' fault you actually find, outside of his
Peter Pumpkin Eater behaviour...but the two are connected.

The basic abusive man wants to keep his wife away from
others. There's a need in him to segregate her so that
she will have no one to talk to. No one to confirm or
deny what she's feeling.

Hence the staying in is connected to the verbal abuse.

Have you notice anything else; i.e. does he try to make
you cry? Does he always take the anti of your pro? Does
he offer peculair opinions on things?

Something I had to learn the hard way: ANYTHING THAT TAKES A LAWYER TO UNDO SHOULD BE THOUGHT OVER HARD.
Do not marry this guy! You're already unhappy and getting married is only going to make you miserable.
It seems to me you're only still in this relationship to save yourself from his reaction, whether it be angry or sad.
Walk away now; you'll be better in the long run.

'Women's Intuition"
we call it;
just after we say;

"I knew I should of....(fill in blank)"

"I had a feeling that...(fill in blank)"

Think of life like this;

You're riding a motorcycle, you're going about
seventy, you coming to a sharp turn.

1)You know for a dead on fact you
can take that turn at that speed

2) You aren't sure you can take that
turn so slow down

3) You don't think you can make it but
don't slow down to prove some point
to some imaginery character.

Now 1 is the way you should be riding.
You should be riding at a speed you know
for a fact you can manage.

2) warns you that what you're doing is not
sensible, so you better rethink it

3) is the kind of mindlessness that will
get you killed.

When you are in a relationship that is 'right'
you never double think yourself.

If you wonder; 'should I go there? Should I do
that?' Don't.

If you think to yourself, "Maybe I should slow down"
slow down.

In this case, something inside of your is shouting;
"No!"
Listen.

Thank you all so much. i have been losing sleep over this

You will figure it out .... Listen to your heart. A womans gut feeling is always right and if you feel you need some time to find yourself then do it. If its meant to be he will still be there with open arms when you are ready.