Thread: UGH!! He's so messy!

I couldn't help but laugh when reading this because...well, ditto. My boyfriend prides himself on being clean and organized, when that is far from the truth. I've found that after I ask three times for something to be cleaned and it isn't done, it's time to be manipulative. I literally pretend I'm fuming mad that the house is a mess and ramble on about how nothing in my life is going right. It, in turn, makes him mad, and when he's mad he gets goal oriented a.k.a he cleans. After we're done cleaning, we're less stressed, no harm done. Some things, like folding the laundry, only happens once in a blue moon, so I've learned to live with the fact that I will forever be indebted to folding his boxers.

One weekend he went away to visit his parents, at which point I went through ALL of his belongings and sorted out what he did and didn't need. Most of the clutter was stuff he didn't use, it was just taking up space. That was six months ago and he still hasn't noticed anything different or missing.

This is why it's a good idea for couples to live together BEFORE marriage. Find out their quirks and cleaning habits, if it's not going to change you have to decide, can I deal with this the rest of my life or can I not?

I know how you feel i agree with franny&Zooey Anyway my husband is the same always untidy in the house i always have to remind him to do things for me without him in the house the house is spotless..lol i even put some his old clothes just sitting in the cupbroads gave them away without him knowing it and he hasn't asked me where are they ?.lol i wish he was like my step-father his a very clean and tidy person and cooks at home. oh well life goes on

Originally Posted by Franny&Zooey

One weekend he went away to visit his parents, at which point I went through ALL of his belongings and sorted out what he did and didn't need. Most of the clutter was stuff he didn't use, it was just taking up space. That was six months ago and he still hasn't noticed anything different or missing.

Hahahaha! Awesome.

Ditto here. It really gets to me. What's even worse is that my guy doesn't even live with me. He's just over here all the time and he's a total pig! He leaves a trail where ever he goes, even outside. The other day he found one of his bank receipts in the bushes in the yard!

Ugh! All I can do is constantly nag and then after a month or two I blow up and tell him that it's over and that I never want him in my house again and then he'll half-a$$ a 'clean up'. .....then right back to being a slob.

yeah my husband does it to..he cant even close his closet..we have 2 kids also and when i come home i have to pick up after all three of them..its like hes a big kid..it used to bug me alot..but u kno what u cant sweat the small stuff..it drives me crazy that when he uses a plate or a cup he puts it right next to the sink..instead of in the sink..u should be upset and let him kno..but its not that big of deal..when he s doing something far worse then thats means for a ultimatum

It's like that commercial advertising cleaning items for vehicles, the little boy gets shut up in the mini-van, they open the door a minute later and it's knee deep in stuff.

LMBO!

I don't know what to say about this! Hey, Fallen1, I thought EVERYBODY did this:

I would turn down the covers on the corner just enough for me to slip into bed, basically my bed was still made it just was made up with me in it.

LOL, I thought I was taking a short-cut on making my bed!

This is just the way your b/f is. Doesn't look like he's gonna change, IMO... however, I could be wrong

Originally Posted by Fallen1

I have a few compulsive disorders one of which is having to have my place neat and clean with things in their "proper" places. I used to keep my bedroom spotless. When I would get ready for bed at night I couldn't stand to unmake my bed so I would turn down the covers on the corner just enough for me to slip into bed, basically my bed was still made it just was made up with me in it.

Well, you can't expect the same thing from other people that you find in yourself. Try to lighten up, if you can. Compromise??? I do empathize though. I like neat too....and my SO is also a little messy.