Thread: should i stay or should i go?

so i dont really know where to start its kinda a long story so in a nut shell. A guy that i had been aquaintences with for like 8 years was here on vacation from florida back in sept. of 06 he had only lived in florida for 2 years and lived in washington where i live prior to that so anyway we pretty much just hit it off right away, he was here for two weeks and i found myself totally falling for this guy. He kept saying how home sick he was and how he didnt want to leave and he was really upset he had to go back to florida. So me being the nice person i am decided to give him the funds to make his way back to washington. So i got the money and sent him a check right away and within less then two weeks he was on his way back here. I even flew down and met him in texas and finished driving up here with him
Ok so everything was peachy a few months later we got a house together and with his older brother. AND WOW! things started falling apart rapidly. He turned into a big jerk and i dont know if it was because we were always together and never had any breathing room or what but his brother ended up moving out cause we couldnt get along and then him and i were struggling to make ends meet and we started fighting about anything and everything whether or not i was nagging at him about smoking pot or because we didnt have any money it just seemed to never end!!! we were struggling financially worse then i have ever struggled before and it was a first for him as well.... so just not a good situation. I ended up leaving this last august and moving back in with the folks and he moved in with some friends of his. Things were not good for a little while but then we started talking and hanging out again and we have been up and down for a while but the last couple months have been great... I love him more then i could have ever imagined but he refuses to put a label on our relationship. We go out on dates and we are still sexual i stay at his house on the weekends and most of the time we get along... until i get annoyed with him putting me off or something. I dont mind him having his own life and doing his own thing .. i do my thing too. But I just cant stand the fact that he doesnt want to give me all of him and just be with me. He thinks that me and him hanging out all the time and doing stuff together is good enough right now and says he just doesnt want a girlfriend right now... but i just dont understand why ? we have everything couples have.. there is just no real commitment i guess. And he says its cause he doesnt want to have to go through me to do what he wants. he likes to go do his own things without me ing at him... but other people tell me that he is just waiting for someone better to come along or he is just using me blah blah i dont know what to do i just want him to see that we should be together. i know it sounds desperate but i just love him so much.uugghh. At the same time tho i question myself too because he never says i love you but he does show he cares for me and stuff but after 15 months of seeing each other i want more... what should i do ?

Honestly i think you need to move on. Im not saying as far as with another guy but as far as doing things to keep your mind occupied. And honestly time will tell. Once he realizes that your not really around i promise you that he will come back around. We want what we cant have. He will see real quick what he has. I have been there done that.