My bf is always asking about small stuffs like what am i doing.. If i never reply him fast enough, he will call me.. i find like he is checking on me.. what do you guys think? i've told him about this already but i still had a feeling he's possessive and he gets jealous easily.. kinda feel he had change.. as he wasn't like that last time.. i'm getting irritated and no longer can stands his action.. even i wanted a break up, he wouldn't agree to it.. am i overreacting or have i changed? pls help/advise...

If you want a breakup and he says "no," doesn't that seem odd to you? If you want to break up, do it and completely ignore him. Is this the same guy who dumped you after taking your virginity?
Get rid of him; he sounds like real bad news.
If you live with your parents, tell them what's going on and stop taking his calls.
If you live by yourself, have your best friend come stay with you for a few days and do the same thing, ignore him.
If he becomes threatening, CALL THE POLICE. They're nice folks.
You could be saving yourself from a bad, bad relationship by listening to your bad feelings now.

I agree with Little. Big warning flags here! your red siren should be going off. if you don't like something that he is doing, then call it off.

one thing i've learned after dating so many "bad" men, they will NEVER change. never. in fact, most people don't change. if we could change our spouses, SO, or bf, gf...why would we be complaining about them all the time? LOL!

but seriously... this is a sign. find someone who respects you. everything about you even your privacy. if it were phone calls to ask how your day was, that's different but it doesn't sound like that to me.

good luck and keep us posted.

kitty

I agree with the ladies.

You break up with this guy and he tells you "NO"???
As it's been mentioned, that's a red-flag right there!

He's jealous, insecure and sounds like he will stalk you. Get rid of him NOW.
Notify the police and make them aware of what you've stated here. Get a PPO on the guy; he sounds extremely emotionally/mentally unstable.

Don't play with this. To have someone stalk you is horrible, sickening and there are a host of other words that I can't even think of right now to describe it.